Pink Sky
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Sending love to all my AS friends and hoping you've survived xmas day without too much pain 💛
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I wish I lived in a little house by the sea with no neighbours for miles. I want to be able to cry out loud without the background sounds of family life on the other side of the wall. I want to scream into the sea and roar with the waves. Instead I stifle my pain, box it in. I don't want to hold it anymore.
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Welcome @Pushed over I'm glad you found us too! It really is an incredible community with so much support and understanding. It does seem these struggles are life long for most but I hope joining us here will help make yours a little easier. I commend your courage in reaching out. You are not alone 💛
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People-Pleasing and Boundaries
Pink Sky commented on Capulet's blog entry in A Grain of Salt & A Pound of Chocolate
Oh gosh, no worries. Never any hurry or obligation to reply! That's a good point about not being in a hurry. The temptation is to build solid steel boundaries to avoid any risk ever again, but that's no way to live life. Particularly around sex and dating I know it's going to take a long time to feel my way into what I really want and need. Anyway I hope you haven't had too busy a week and are managing to squeeze in some rest 💛 -
People-Pleasing and Boundaries
Pink Sky commented on Capulet's blog entry in A Grain of Salt & A Pound of Chocolate
Thanks for sharing this Cap. It's so helpful to explore where our lack of boundaries have exposed us to more abuse. As you say the sad truth is that trauma often causes us to act in ways that lead to more trauma. There's a careful line we have to tread between not blaming ourselves whilst also acknowledging where we made bad choices and taking responsibility for making better ones in future. I'm certainly finding the more I heal, the more able I am to look back on past choices and understand where and why I went wrong. The more I understand my story, the more those choices and behaviours make -
Can't cry and I need to more than anything right now. So much pain and grief is built up in my body and I can't get it out
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Sending support @Pink Sky, glad today seems like a better day
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Wahoo, go buddy! I only just came across this thread (a month later) but reading through the suggestions, I wondered if in addition to the subforum for survivors with disabilities, it might be an option to have one for BIPOC survivors too. I'm white myself, but I've noticed one or two members raising issues related to race recently and it struck me how rarely this comes up on the forum. It must be a factor in so many people's experience of abuse and recovery, so I wonder if a dedicated space (free of white folk!) would make more people feel safe to discuss this. I'm probably way too late
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Back in my own space at last!
I'm proud I made it away with friends and I did have some really fun times, but it was an emotional rollercoaster. I missed my bedroom safe haven. It's good to be home.
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Feeling flat and low 😔
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I'm having trauma CBT through NHS Talking Therapies at the moment and have the most incredible T. It was almost a 6 month wait, but I'm getting 12 weeks now for free and it's the best experience I've ever had with therapy. I think it is quite hit and miss with NHS therapists, I had standard CBT through them in 2020, when I thought I was just suffering from anxiety, but I didn't build a relationship with the therapist at all. Some of the exercises we did were helpful but overall it felt quite superficial. Local Mind centres also offer free therapy, including ACT and other talking therapie
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Had a lovely sat night reconnecting with my cousin, but feeling sad this eve. Too many lovely people are suffering. Humans have got so much wrong 😔
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Day 1 of my new job complete! 💪 Super proud of myself, and feeling really positive about the role. Plus my new team are really lovely 😊 Big thanks to my AS friends for all the support getting to this point!
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Hi pat I'm so glad you've got to the point you're reaching out for support. So many of us tried to process things alone at first, or stuffed things down for years cos we didn't know how to process it. But I agree with you that it helps hugely knowing you're not alone. This forum is such a source of comfort cos so many people can relate, and even when they don't share a specific experience, there's zero judgement and 100% compassion and support. Have you accessed or considered accessing therapy at all? I'd really recommend seeking support from a trauma therapist if you can. Nothing beats
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Feel like I'm getting everything wrong at the moment 😔
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Feeling a lot of love and gratitude for this community this evening 💛💛💛
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Sending you lots of hugs, buddy. I'm so glad that you're here with us.
@WannaMoveOn Awwww doggy!!! Have fun watching her!
Hope you can avoid him tomorrow and hooray for him going back to work between xmas and new year. Big hugs bud, you've got this! 
