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Capulet
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Hello!!! Welcome to AS! We are glad you are here, though we are sorry for the circumstances under which you have arrived. Hopefully being here will bring you peace, comfort and healing, for community does help us to feel much less alone as we go through the process! Take gentle care, - Cap
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Hello Molly, and welcome!!! I am glad to see you here, though I am sorry for the circumstances that have brought you here. I think, though, that being around those who truly understand how trauma can affect you can make a huge difference when it comes to healing. You definitely are not alone. May being here bring you peace and comfort. Wishing you the best, - Cap
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Hi @Milko and welcome I echo everyone else when I say you've found a safe place where you are definitely not alone and are surrounded by people who can relate to what you are going through. For sure take your time while browsing; it can be a bit overwhelming at first but I do hope you'll find peace, comfort and healing here. All the best, - Cap
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Hello @Enid4 and welcome to After Silence! I'm glad you have found us, although I'm sorry of the circumstances that have led you to seek us out. So, as a fellow survivor of CSA/sexual violence, I agree with what has already been said and want you to be reassured that you are not overreacting at all. You are reacting normally to a situation that clearly triggers you. I think, given the circumstances, I would be a little concerned if your boyfriend's behavior did not bother you in any way. I know it is difficult, especially during a point in your relationship where a year has alr -
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Capulet commented on Capulet's blog entry in A Grain of Salt & A Pound of Chocolate
Hi, @awi - it's so nice to hear from you - thank you so much for reading my rambles. Sometimes I worry that I've veered entirely off course with some of it. I suppose that I have let too much time go by without a self check-in or even without taking the time to sit down and start writing just to see what comes out. Suppression is too real a thing, ain't it? It felt good to light a sweet-smelling candle, grab a crunchy snack and retreat into my office and tackle some of these nagging thoughts. I know a lot of these could be posts here and there, but I'll take what I can get! I'm glad -
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Capulet posted a blog entry in A Grain of Salt & A Pound of Chocolate
I believe that one of the most important 'maintenance' steps within one's healing journey is to allow ourselves periodic check-ins with ourselves. It's entirely too easy to convince ourselves we are 'fine' whenever we are asked by others in passing.....you know? They'll say, 'Hey, how's it going?' and we'll reply something like, 'It's good, how are you?' The conversation usually goes in one or two directions from there. It either ends, for that was the hello and goodbye you'll typically share with this person for the rest of the day. Or - it will lead to a very light conversation a -
Hello and welcome to AS, @Lostvoice - you are not alone, I hope that being here brings you peace, comfort and healing. Best wishes, - Cap
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Thank you, @Lisa7 Yes, the coffee machine has been my friend lately! Recently, circumstances have forced me to leave earlier in the morning, but I am hoping to be back to my 'normal' (what's that???) routine soon - some mornings I have had to bypass the coffee entirely and that's not helping me to be alert. ;) I'm grateful for understanding co-workers. I appreciate the read! I hope life is treating you well. I see you are new here. Welcome to the site. All the best! - Cappy
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Hello @Trying2MoveOn, welcome to AS. I echo ActivistAlly’s post and agree you are reacting normally given the circumstances. Healing looks different for us all but it is extremely common to have delayed reactions to trauma. I myself did not begin to deal with things until many years later. Wishing you all the best as you navigate our community - glad you are here and hope that being here is comforting!
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Welcome to AS, @J03ep - you can call me Cap - fellow survivor of CSA (childhood sexual abuse). I'm very sorry to learn that your experiences have made you seek us out but am hopeful that you'll find that many of our community members are in the same boat and are trying to process and sort things out as well. It is truly a journey - but the good news is you are not alone and you have definitely come to the right place for connection, support, validation and for a healing resource. You should be hearing from a member of our Newbie Support Team very soon if not already. Please let me kno
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Every day, if traffic and other circumstances permit, I arrive to work a few minutes early. It’s not a lot of time; it’s maybe three or four minutes before I have to clock in. This is time I spend in the car, just kind of sitting - trying to mentally prepare for the day to start, even though I’d already been awake for over an hour. Let me be clear - I’m too fucking lazy to get a coffee on my commute, knowing that the coffee machine in the teacher’s lounge is there waiting for me is a comfort. That helps a lot, for 8am is not too ungodly an hour to start work but is still early for me, some
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It is officially 2025 where I am!
Ready or not, here it is. Guess we will all have to make the most of it. I wish you all happiness, health, positivity and healing. ❤️ Sending all of my love to you all as we navigate our next year of healing - may this year be more progressive than last year was, even if only slightly. Cheers, everyone.
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Welcome to AS, @SwanseasStar. I'm Cap, fellow survivor. I'm sorry for the circumstances under which you have arrived, but do hope that being here brings you healing. Silence is indeed deafening - and sometimes we spend more time and effort downplaying and denying - it can be exhausting sometimes, right? We have all got to start somewhere when it comes to putting experiences into words. Although these are terrible words that are tough to string together, once we begin to speak them (especially to others who can relate and can support and provide validation), we become so much stron
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As someone who has been on both sides (the cheerful side and the 'Grinchy' side) of the holidays, I'll refrain from saying "Merry Christmas" - I know that many struggle during the holidays - I do not think, though, that there is any harm in saying that my thoughts are with you whether you are joyful today or are having a hard time. I wish you all peace, comfort and healing, 365 days of the year! ❤️
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Loving words for those who struggle with the holidays. My door/PM is always open. ❤️
