DakotaSun

It’s one year since I left my perpetrator. We had been married 20 years. Behaviours escalated after I said I wanted to leave abd he raped me in my sleep just before 20th anniversary. It was profoundly shocking. Like you I had an apology after and texts admitting it but I deleted all that I just wanted to leave and involved police by accident when he tried to exclude me from the kids lives and I asked Police if I could move back in and change locks while he was out. Police made me bring investigation but handled badly.People who haven’t been through think that if you share your story you will

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You write beautifully. I think you are an amazing person who has had the opportunity to flourish into herself damaged by experiences and that has coloured all the following perceptions. People don’t hate you. Some will love you. Some will be indifferent but hate takes a lot of energy. People seldom do hate really. Normal people. The problem is for me my normal marriage wasn’t normal. I wasn’t loved I was used abd the abuse didn’t stop with SA - control and emotional abuse led me to believe everyone hated me. I read too much into everything and anytime I felt hurt by rejection was encouraged by

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You’re all AMAZING! What an incredible welcome thank you from the bottom of my heart truly 😊

Hello I’m a single mum. I’m a work in progress. I don’t know what to put here I’m still finding it hard to process the events of the last 2 years. My friends are so kind but say things like ‘Why can’t you see how far you have come?’ And ‘why didn’t you leave sooner?’ And some ‘it cannot be true or the police would have arrested him’ I’ve lost my job, my dignity, my sense of self, my financial security, my children’s sense of safety (tho mine greater) my church, my close friends, my extended in law family. It’s been like multiple bereavements. I have big holes in my memory and what I can only c

I found these tools helpful. Thanks for posting. I felt the same way about gifts and help I never expected it and wondered what would be wanted in return but there are some good people.

Hi okattaphoenix youll rise again martial arts are a good disciplined way to kickass and channel anger as well as feel accomplishment- this helped me a lot ten years ago when the abuse started and I could not bring myself to leave. Only you really know what’s best for you with help from counsellor I think. Personally I’m learning not everything is transferable from one person to another you know? But all kindness is good so I take the thought behind advice as kindness and filter. One of my friends said I should never let my children see I am in pain. This just added to my feelings of fa

I’m new too. You write beautifully and friendship will return to you. I lost friends but also found people on the fringes of my life became central in unexpected ways. Pleased to find you and everyone here as I feel self conscious, unworthy and confused about how life brought me to this point. I’m finding my memory has huge protective blanks it’s disoriented me.