Anonymous75

Perhaps it would be helpful to take care of yourself in this and create safe distance between yourself and this person. I am practicing that with my mother at this time and so far the results are amazing. 

I don't know what you mean about not defining a person in a letter. Would you be sending the letter? If not, then say whatever the heck you want

Good luck,

Karen

I would suggest writing this person a letter, but not necessarily sending it to them. It's amazing what writing letters can do you for you, psychologically. I had my doubts, but I have written six of these and they have all had positive impacts on my life. I don't know how "useful" this definition is...Do you mean call them that to their face? If so, I would think it would be un-useful. It sounds like you are just trying to hurt them. Hurting people only ends up hurting you, in the end, I think, anyway. But if you feel driven to call them these things when speaking about them to others or to yourself--I say do it, LOL. It might make you feel better.

Take care,

Karen

I'm sorry to hear that. I sort of think I understand why it is so hard, but my last therapist didn't. She was sure that it was because I am unhappy with my weight. That is not it at all.