i'm sorry, i missunderstood.
i only meant that i had just read a post that just started out as a question, and just led to a missunderstanding, between a surviviour and a secondary surviviour. i can imagine it would happen a lot. and i'm not advocating there negative behaviour. really i'm just saying that when i read the arguement i could see how both of them felt.
i'm not trying to open this for debate either, i'm just saying it was taking of context and still i can see myself in both positions. it didn't look like it was eithier one of them to handle.
i think you were just saying that a