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Hi, @madeline. I saw your post in @pattyr;s story. I wanted to say that I can relate. I was sexually abuse by my female babysitter too. Always wished that my mother had paid more attention in selecting her or had come home unexpectedly to check on me, but she never did. Eventually, I told, and the babysitter was fired. But, it really traumatized me. I'm so sorry that your babysitter abused you instead of taking care of you.
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My friend!!!!!
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I missed you, @Iheartcupcakes! It's good to be back.
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Welcome. I'm sorry you were hurt. You were very brave to leave that relationship. I hope that you find healing here at AS.
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Welcome. Glad you are here. I hope that you can find support at AS and that in time you are able to find a way to communicate with your husband.
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What happened wasn't your fault. You did not deserve to be taken advantage of in that way. I'm sorry for your suffering. It is possible to seek help and begin to heal. The Rape and Incest National Network has a list of crisis centers across the US where survivors of rape/sexual abuse/sexual assault can receive counseling. https://rainn.org/get-help
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Welcome! You belong here, and we are glad that you found us. We support your journey for healing. You are free to share as much or as little as you feel comfortable. As Mary said, there are male members here, and we treasure their presence as we do that of all AS members.
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Welcome to AS. It's normal to be scared of sharing. But, I've found that sharing my story and my feelings here has been very healing for me.
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Welcome to AS. A lot of us have realized that we have unresolved feelings from past abuse/assault. It can be overwhelming when you first become aware of the impact the past is having on you. But, there is hope and healing. You've come to the right place.
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We get it. You're in the right place.
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Welcome to AS, Randi. I can relate to not really being able to talk fully with in person friends/family. And, I also understand about bottling things up. I just started to deal with my childhood sexual abuse two months ago after 30 years of denial. And, I just started to deal with my sexual assault last week after not realizing it was sexual assault for over 20 years. So, I get it. Glad you made it to AS. I hope that this is a healing space for you.
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Welcome, SJ. I think that it's great that you want to help other survivors in their healing through your counseling practice. I hope that you find AS to be a safe and healing community for you.
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So sorry that you are going through this and that the pain of your abuse is affecting your ability to enjoy a consensual relationship. I think that as survivors we frequently feel like we can't set boundaries or express our own needs. It seems like it's particularly hard for us to do this in the area of physical intimacy. Abuse teaches us that we don't have any control over our own bodies, and that it's okay for other people's desires to overrule our own. I know that I tend to feel that way. If someone is touching me, and it makes me uncomfortable, it's hard for me to say anything. I usually j