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MeBeMary

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  1. Hi Lilyrose, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what happened to you recently. It must all seem so fresh to you. I hope you know that you did nothing wrong and that this was not deserved. It is one of the things must of us have a tough time dealing with, but what any survivor goes thru is not their fault. I hope you are healing physically and sorry it was severe enough to require surgery. The emotional and psychological healing will likely take a bit longer. Do know you are not alone, as you will find support and understanding from this community. Take your time tho on sh
  2. Hi halflife. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what happened to you last week. What happened was not your fault. Being hurt is never deserved and I am sad that your wife thinks so. Your drinking is not an excuse for anyone to do as they wish to you. I wish she understood this. I want you to understand this, too. What you feel is normal...for un-normal circumstances. We often feel responsible for what others did to us. You did not ask for this tho and this fake friend had no right to do this. I'm so sorry you were betrayed by someone you trusted. Feel free to look around t
  3. Hi Kylie, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for all you have been thru and the struggles you are facing right now. You comment on courage, which I don't want you to discredit yourself with. Reaching out is courageous. Saying that first hello is courageous. Deciding to work on your healing is courageous. I am sure many more courageous steps will come. Take your time to look around and jump in when you feel comfortable. There is no rush, but plenty of support, encouragement and validation. I am glad that you have found us. I wish you many steps forward as you travel down
  4. Hi BillieMay, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what happened to you a few months ago. It was unfair and undeserved. I am also sorry you are struggling without support right now. I know it makes things more difficult to process alone. You will find a community filled with understanding people here who do understand and will support and validate you. You are not alone. Feel free to look around our site and interact where you feel comfortable. It does take courage to reach out, so I am happy you decided to do so. It's not an easy path, but we are here for you. I wish you we
  5. Hi Rusty, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what has brought you here, but do know that you will find support. We have understanding and kind members that will support and encourage you along this healing road. We have many private forums, once you are ready to interact on more specific items. You will find this a safe and healing place. I wish you well as you move down this path we call healing. Mary
  6. Welcome to our community, SimilingThroughIt. I am very sorry you have reasons to be here, but I know you will receive tons of support. Our members truly are kind and understanding. This pandemic has made things more difficult, I know. We are here for you tho. You are not alone. Feel free to look around. Interact at your own pace and where you feel comfortable. There is no pressure. It does take great courage to reach out tho, so I do want to acknowledge that courage. I wish you the best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  7. Hi again, PixieCat! I hope you are doing ok today and feeling a little more comfortable on the site. Remember, I am always available, if you need anything. Mary Hi Moving forward, Tho you directed this comment to Vitacry, I wanted to extend a warm welcome to you, as well. I'm sorry you have felt like an outsider, but in many ways we are all outsiders here...so we can be outsiders together, if that sounds ok to you. You will find tons of support here, when you are ready. Wishing you the best as you begin this journey here with us. Mary
  8. Hi Vitacry, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you've endured and the struggles you face. I know it's not easy to reach out, so kudos to you for doing so. You will find this community filled with understanding and kind members. You are not alone. Feel free to look around the site and jump in where you feel comfortable. I wish you the very best on this journey we call healing. Mary
  9. Hi Sleepy.tired, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for all you have gone thru and the struggles you face. It wasn't fair or deserved for all you've been thru. You have found a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. I am glad you decided to reach out, as this should not be a path you walk alone. Take your time and look around the community and interact where you feel comfortable. There is no pressure or judgment, but we are here for you. I wish you the best as you begin this journey we call healing. Mary
  10. Welcome back, brokenangel. I am sorry there are still struggles that you face, but I am so glad you remember this community. Many of the names may have changed, but this group remains understanding, kind, and supportive. Feel free to look around and find your footing once again. We are here for you. Wishing you the best as you continue to work at finding ways that will help you continue down this path we call healing. Mary back.
  11. Hi Charlie and welcome. Very sorry you have reasons to be here and that you were hurt when you were young. It is so unfair that anyone hurt you and unfair that struggles continue. You found a wonderful community with many understanding members. You are not alone. Reading thru some of the forums is a good way to start. There is no rush or pressure for you to share, but do know when you are ready to interact, we are here for you. It is a scary step, I know, but know you are brave for reaching out. I wish you the best and you begin this confusing path we call healing. Mary
  12. Welcome back! I'm sorry you are still struggling, but as you see, many of your friends are still here...plus many new ones, as well. I'm sorry you lost support in the other community, but we welcome you back with open arms!
  13. Hi Satin, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what happened to you as a child. It was wrong and unfair. You will find support here, as our members are very understanding and kind. You are not alone. I do find that many survivors have a creative streak within them and I'm sure it can be therapeutic, both the art and the music. Feel free to check out our Healing Through Creativity forum, if you feel it is something you would like to share. I am glad you decided to reach out and join our community. I wish you well as you continue down this path we call healing. Mary
  14. Hi there, Ready. Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you endured so many years ago. I can relate, I found this site after denying and struggling for over 30 years. I felt helpless, alone and confused. I needed an outlet and I found this site, too. It is filled with so many understanding and supportive people. It is a safe haven to speak out and find ways to manage life better. I am glad that you have found us. I am glad you are still here! It means you are a fighter, if you realize it or not. Trying to find other ways is the brave way to go. Maybe not easy, but it
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    Hi Jazz, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured that has led you here. What happened was unfair and undeserved. Capulet is right...you found a supportive community with many understanding members. You are not alone. The best way to figure out the forum is to just look around. You will see different areas with different themes. Interact where you are comfortable. There is no pressure at all. You will also find many pet lovers here and even have a thread, if you care to check it out! Many beautiful furbabies of our members are posted. Nothing so big as
  16. Hi there, nocturnalpixie, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the reasons that find you here, but do know you found a very supportive community with many understanding members. What you went thru was unfair and undeserved, but we are here for you. The struggles seem to find us, well after the initial abuse. Finding others who really know what it is like has been a blessing to me. We have a creativity section, if you come to a point you would like to share. We have quite a few artist members and it can be a therapeutic way to help ourselves. It is up to you. I love cats
  17. Hi Irisdescent_fly, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the abuse your ex put you thru, but happy you found the courage to leave him. I know it isn't easy to do, so I am glad you have. What he put you thru was unfair and undeserved. You will find much support here tho, as our members are truly kind and understanding. You find yourself among friends. It does sound that you are moving forward on this journey we call healing and your T sounds like a good one! I hope we can also help you with steps forward, as healing is so deserved. Feel free to look around the site and I wish
  18. Hi Noell, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have endured and the struggles you face. You will find much support here as we do have a community of understand and kind individuals. You are not alone. It's difficult to reach out, I know. I am glad you found us and decided to join. Take your time and look around the site and jump in when you feel ready. I wish you many steps forward as you continue this path we call healing. Mary
  19. Hi LuluKlu, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry you experienced something to lead you here, but am happy you did find us. You will find tons of support here. Our members really are kind and supportive. You are not alone. Take your time and look around our community. Feel free to interact when you are ready. We are here for you, but without pressure, so go at your own pace. I wish you will as you continue down this path of healing. Mary
  20. Hi Lostforsolong, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have experienced. It was undeserved and unfair. You will find much support here, as our members are understanding and kind. You are not alone. Feel free to look around the community and begin to interact where and when it is comfortable for you. It was very brave to reach out and try a group like ours. I am glad you found us. I wish you well as you continue forward on this path we call healing. Mary
  21. Hi Rachal and welcome. I am very sorry for what you have been thru and I understand the shock that goes with something so recent. I am sure you are filled with confusion and fear. To say these are normal feelings is so wrong, tho it is true. How could you not have so many mixed feelings? I do hope you realize you did not deserve to be hurt and nobody had this right to hurt you. I am glad you decided to reach out here tho. As you already see, we have many wonderful and supportive members. You are not walking this path alone. Take your time and take a look around. You can intera
  22. Hi galaxxxy, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am sorry for the trauma you've endured and the struggles you are currently facing. You have found a very supportive site with many understanding and kind members. As you begin to look around and when you feel comfortable, you can start sharing what you went thru and what you are going thru now. There is no pressure, just take it at your own pace. If you are hurting and you need support and trying to find ways to heal, you deserve to be here. We often think that about ourselves, but it's not true. There is no excuse for anyone to hurt us and the
  23. Hi positivevibe, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what you have experienced and the struggles you face. This was never fair for you to experience. Nobody had the right to hurt you. You have found a supportive community tho, with many understanding and kind members. I agree with @snmls . Sadly, the trauma that is endured is nothing we can change. Healing is more of the discovery of what works with coping and managing these struggles better. Taking steps to find more better days, than not. It isn't always easy, I know. I am glad you reached out tho. I do feel that it
  24. Hi doibelonghere, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for the trauma you have gone thru, as well of the struggles of an upcoming traumaversary. Nobody deserves to be abused in any way. Sadly, the legal system is lacking in many ways. I am sorry she is the one that is getting the sympathy. Survivors need understanding, and that too, is lacking within society. I am glad you decided to reach out. In regards to your user name, I will just say this...if you are hurting and struggling and need support and understand, the answer is yes. We accept you here and hope you find steps that
  25. Hi Nc0430, Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry that you have experienced a trauma and are struggling. I cannot imagine a bigger trigger than the abuser trying to reestablish contact. I do hope that you are able to put in place ways where he is blocked from getting thru to you. He does not deserve to be in your life after what he has done. Do know that you will find support and understanding here. Hopefully making connections will help as you deal with these struggles. Feel free to look around and begin to interact where and when you feel comfortable. There is no pressure, but we
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