Skyfeather

I think you are not alone in how you are feeling about her. If she bullied you there were others and maybe they friended her out of guilt also. It's awful how those bullies keep hold of our memories and continue to sway our actions as adults. I have no attachment and do not feel sorry for her but I feel for you and how that guilt is affecting you. I am going through something similar, but the bullying was more recent than high school. I will simultaneously feel joy and guilt over her current circumstances. It is difficult to let it be. I believe that those bullies in our life were so unhappy t

Sadness, anger, pain. Your post has brought back memories I want to forget. They are part of my story too. When I read it I see me, who I was. I have no words. No thoughts on how to help with what you are going through now. But I hear you and feel the pain and anger.

I know exactly what you mean about #1. Even out of college, I hear it on the radio, different comedians, and other people in entertainment (mostly male) make jokes about being raped and molested. As a teacher I find it extremely disturbing and as a fellow survivor of rape and molestation I can feel myself dissociate when I hear those kinds of comments. Even on youtube, when someone doesn't like a video. Instead of just leaving it and finding something else they have to comment about how their ears were raped by that artist. It doesn't make sense and they are fools to use langauge so loosely. M

I feel it again. Does it ever go away? I just want to run off and scream. Little things set me off and they are random. I felt it building up Thurs night and by Friday I just lost it in the car. Crying hysterically and I couldn't breathe to calm down. I know when its coming because there is pressure and anxiety pressure in my chest. Today was a wasted day. Nothing done except eating too much to fill the void and numb the pain. Now I am waiting for the drugs to take effect so I can easily fall asleep and forget about this pain. I hate myself for feeling like this! I am trying to be gentle with

It sounds like you have the kind of friend we all need. I hope the body memories fade quickly for you. I have been having some body pain this last week and thought "well, it can't be from the memories. That would feel different." It's been going on all week so I am not sure. I just want to stop remembering. The pain comes in waves and so does my resolve to heal. I may feel like giving up in the morning on my way to work, and then I hear a song on the radio/CD player and think "I can do this!" Then by the time I get home I just want to curl up in bed again. When does this part end? They say it

You are very brave for speaking about it. No one should be hating on you, no matter how they feel about abortions. You were in pain. I wish I could tell you how to remember the memories. If I knew then I would do it too to speed up this painful process. I'm sure there are hypnotists out there that say they can help but I am not sure. My T told me that if I attended a group support meeting (a 1 yr commitment) that "all sorts of memories will come up." She has been practicing for over 30 yrs and says when people are able to talk and share with other trauma survivors it awakens the memories. I w

Thank you! You have made my week. I was feeling so alone. I also had trauma as an adult. My child's father R me and then blamed me for it. I didn't remember the earlier abuse until this last year so every time I was in therapy or getting help it was for when he hurt me. I feel like it is still there, in the background though, even though it is more recent. I don't feel pain about it anymore but I do think about it from time to time. I remembering not crying for years and now it seems like I can cry over anything emotional. You have been a caring friend and I am grateful for your comments. I'm

Thank You! Misery loves company. I have been finding comfort in other peoples trauma/recovery, especially in literature/movies. When I finally decided that I was going to have a good life, even though I couldn't remember the abuse, was when the abuse memories came. Most of them around Thanksiving. I no longer celebrate that holiday, haven't really for years and now I know why I have an aversion to it. I have found a few songs and books that help me refocus. I feel like I can only handle a little memory at a time. The other day I just felt sad and let myself cry and be a kid, coloring and wa

I totally get what you are saying! I have been so frustrated lately because I can't seem to remember and after I think I finally have come to terms with a memory, I remember more things and then I question it all again. It is so hard to be patient and relax when you want to heal. Sometimes I am so scared to remember, afraid it will be so terrifying. I am sorry you are going through something like this but I feel relieved to know I am not alone.

I feel upset today. This whole weekend actually. I can't seem to stop eating, a sure sign for me that I am supressing something. I cleaned out my storage, throwing away a lot of items, donating piles and spent time deciding what I wanted to keep. I came across all my old yearbooks from school. I set them aside as I wasn't sure if I wanted to keep them or throw them out. Do people keep them after they are grown up or do they throw them away? I wasn't sure what to do. I enjoy looking through my parents and grandparents (1 book only) from time to time to try to get a better understanding of thei

My heart cried when I read this. So sorry she treated you that way. You deserve better care. I have no other words, just hoping you are ok.

I have been feeling the same lately. As I began remembering the SA I began questioning when I actually did lose my virginity as well. I remember thinking (during the time I thought I had lost it, as a teenager) "Hmm..that didn't hurt at all. I thought it was supposed to be a bigger deal." That memory combined with what I remember now makes me think I lost it much earlier. I panicked when I came upon this realization. I hope it is not as painful for you. You are not alone and it is a logical question to ask. I think there are more of us here that are asking that question. So sorry you can't rem

When I read your post I felt your strength jumping off the screen! I feel inspired, thank you for posting even though you are having a difficult time. Posts like this help everyone to see that we are all fighting and we are all human and need support. We all have those days, weeks, months that seem to be going downhill at full speed. Standing with you while you fight.

Well, we've had our "meetings" to try and begin progress to resolving some of the issues between the coworker and myself. I have been frustrated the last few weeks because ever since she yelled at me and expressed her anger that way. I do not see her as a safe person anymore. My reaction is to turn and run, avoid her and not talk to her. This makes it difficult to work in a classroom. I have never had this problem with another teacher, we have always been able to resolve our differences for the benefit of the children. This is our main issue, she doesn't see the problems and thinks I overstep