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Hello Patchwork and welcome to After Silence! I'm sorry to hear that you have had a long history of abuse but I'm glad you found after silence as a support site! Good for you for getting free from your abusive partner, that's not easy to do!!! It's good that you are at a stage where you are ready to work on healing and it sounds like you have some very fun and healthy activities to help you as you work through your feelings to process all that you've been through. ActivistAlly

Hi Ellie! Welcome to aftersilence!!! I'm sorry that you suffered what you did to bring you here but I'm glad you found the site for support! I understand what you say about feeling small or young...little when you have moments with the memories and that they are fragments and blurred images that make your physical body feel a storm of sensations that make you feel stuck and overwhelmed. It can be tough to realize that things mattered so much when we were young ages like 4-5 that things still can effect us so powerfully but it's good that you are taking the careful time to nurture yours

Hello and welcome back Lily!!! I'm really glad you've had such a positive experience with AS and the people here and that we can once again be part of your support network!!! It seems that time passed by so quickly!!! Welcome back again!!!

Hi Megan, I'm so glad you found a great friend who directed you to AS (After Silence) though I'm sorry you went through the trauma that made you seek us out. It's true that all our journey's are different but there are also similarities but it doesn't mean there is anything extra wrong if your experience is different than anyone else's. I'm glad that you find comfort in knowing you are not alone and that yes there are many ways that survivors cope and a very wide range of different things they experienced. I hope that AS will be helpful and useful for you and that you can fee

Hello Brave and welcome back!!! I'm glad to see you are in a better place at this time and that sounds really neat that you can grow most of your own food and are living what sounds like a quiet and healthy lifestyle where you have had time to devote to recovery and happy living safe from abuse!!! Canning, making your own soap, and homesteading sound very interesting! So glad to see you again my friend!!! I'm sure that your support will be valued by many here but also remember we're here for you as well if you want to talk or need shoulders to lean on ActivistAlly

Hello Erica, It sounds like it was not easy for you to post but I'm glad you joined and stayed until you were ready to introduce yourself. I hope that, as you are feeling comfortable, that you can get support and encouragement from people here. You're not alone with your struggles. I'm glad you are choosing to do a new thing by introducing yourself here.

Hello Eviesaye Welcome to AfterSilence! I'm sorry that you went through traumatic childhood experiences but I'm glad you've found AfterSilence! I hope this will be a safe place where you can talk about these things and feel understood. Many of us feel like imposters or maybe are only seeking attention but I believe you and I believe you have every right to be here and deserve to be heard and to heal. I hope you find many members here who will make it feel like they are with you every step of the way to helping you have a better future! ActivistAlly

hello @rabbitprotectsme Sounds like you've felt isolated with this for a long time so I hope you can find people who relate with you here to support you as you journey through life. I hope that the positive changes in your life that have triggered this desire to process long buried emotions is a sign that you are feeling safer and can heal parts of yourself that still hurt and are in need of care. You certainly deserve compassion and caring treatment and are not a bad person who made things up. We believe you. Welcome to AS (After Silence). ActivistAlly

Hello @Absentantidepressant I'm sorry for the reasons that led you to seek out our site but I'm glad you've found us for support as you work to pick up the pieces and heal. You deserve support and compassion for the trauma you experienced and your pain is as valid as anyone else's. There is no comparing trauma so please know you are welcome here. From what you briefly describe it sounds like you have been through a lot of terrible things though. You're right in that you don't have to feel guilt or shame about things others did to you as it is not your fault. I hope it will feel like

Hi @Puddle I'm sorry you have been feeling lost and I hope AfterSilence (AS) can be of help to you as you search to find yourself.

I'm sorry that you went through things that require a place like this, but I'm happy you found us and I hope AS will be a place where it is okay to talk. I identify with how you describe memories some of which you are sure of and some not so certain about and it is very common for survivors to feel that way. Please take your time as you get to know the site and don't feel obligated to share or give support any more than you are absolutely comfortable with. I hope you will find supporters here who make it feel like they are with you every step of your journey. ActivistAlly

Welcome to After Silence Raisin11! I'm glad you found us but sorry that it had to be for reasons dealing with the issues the site is for. There really is no comparing traumas and so I believe you have as much right to be here as anyone else regardless of how much or how little suffering brought you here. This is a warm and supportive community and we're here to support you! I hope you find this type of forum helpful to you!!!

Hi Kavitax!!! Yes you're doing it right! You sound like you have a lot of wonderful interests! I'm sorry that you have reasons to search out a site like ours but I'm glad you found us. Also sorry that you've found yourself feeling isolated and I hope that AS (After Silence) can be a part of healing for you and that you'll feel like the members of AS are with you every step of the way. Activist Ally

Hi @Trying2MoveOn You are not stupid or abnormal. The trauma you went through was abnormal and how you are responding is totally understandable and okay. For myself one of the huge traumas that I went through did not resurface until I was in my late 40s and I've come to realize we are not alone in a delayed response. That is why the "post" is in post traumatic stress disorder, it was too much to deal with at the time we suffered it. I'm really glad you are trying to survive and thrive again!!! I'm so sorry you went through something so traumatic to seek us out but I'm glad you

Welcome to AS! I hope this will be a good place for you to get support as you work through the difficult memories brought up in your therapy.