Setrain

Lot's of people come here to talk about old stuff. I hope we can help, and it sounds like we can. Welcome to AS.

Lots of people posting about bad feelings and other people posting supportive comments. A fair amount of giving each other advice, usually pretty good, but not always perfect. Lots of posting unusual symptoms or feelings or details of what happened and almost always finding somebody to tell you you're not the only one. Lots of helping each other believe that what happened was not their fault; lots of people post their reasons for blaming themselves hoping for reassurance and inevitably get it. A real sense of community where everybody around you has similar experiences. On the other hand t

Hi, welcome to the forums. This actually is more typical than you realize. Most people don't fight back much and most people feel that they didn't say no loud enough. We are taught to be nice and non-confrontational and it's hard to overcome that in situations where the other person is being completely unreasonable. I'm pretty sure this is the main reason why so many people don't tell. So you're definitely not alone. I certainly didn't fight back much, and I blamed myself for a really long time. Spend much time here and you will realize that that's usually how it happens. I hope we can

I think this would be useful too. I feel like the "less bad" types are actually really important to have, because people here really struggle with feeling validated to talk about less extreme experiences. I love the SA without physical violence thread for that reason. Its explicitly a way to feel like it still counts.

I could really use this thread too.

Thanks you all. There is so much stuff here. I'm just trying to make progress through all the boards, responding where I have something to say. I'm kinda excited and want to do everything.

Hi, I'm going by Setrain, the name of the kid hero in the first story I ever wrote as a kid with a happy ending (though a really sad middle). It seems appropriate. This is my second forum like this, but the first sort of drifted apart and closed down. I miss it a lot and this place seems big and well run enough to last. So: hi.