(My husband guided me to this website yesterday, after many years of living with the fact that I'm a survivor.)
After John first proposed to me, I made it a point to tell him of all the abuse I suffered at the hands of my brother Kris. Rather than dump me as "tainted merchandise", he chose to stick with me, as I needed "a protector and champion", and he wanted to fulfill that role.
Shortly after we were married, Kris called me up and preached that I should forgive him, as he'd been "washed in the blood of the Lamb", etcetera, etcetera. I told him that I was still a victim, no matter what h