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The Best Way We Know How

Capulet

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To anyone who needs to hear this…. ❤️
 

When we come face to face with trauma,
Knowing what to do doesn’t exist.
There are no answers as to why.
There is no instruction manual or guidance.

Some of us didn’t tell anyone.
Some of us did.
Some of us didn’t have a choice.
Some were brave right from the start.
Some of us took a while to get there.
For some, trauma is new.
For others, it is old but feels new.
For some, danger still exists.

But we all dealt with it in the best we knew how to.  

Some said it was the wrong way.  
Some said we made it worse.
Some said our choices were poor.
Some say that we could have done more.
Sometimes the self-blame felt too strong.
Sometimes we felt weak.
Some of us hurt ourselves.
Some of us lashed out at others in anger.
Some of us embraced offers of support.
Some of us prefer to be alone.

But we all coped in the best way we knew how to.

Healing is non-linear.
There are plenty of drops, twists, and turns.
Often, it’s one step forward, two steps back.
Some choose therapy. 
Others may not.
Some choose to begin healing right away.
Some wait for the time to be right.
Some wait until they feel safe.

Either way, we all tackle this journey in the best way we know how to.

Protecting ourselves is never easy.
Some choose to reach out during times of struggle.
Some choose to isolate.
Some survivors can cry freely.
Others feel that to cry is to show weakness.
Some trust with their whole hearts.
Others keep a distance because that feels safer.

Either way, we all protect ourselves in the best way we know how.

Moving forward, we all have to remember…

That there’s no right or wrong way to have gotten here.

There’s no better or worse way we could have arrived at this point in time. 

We’re here.  That’s #1.  We made it here.  This is important.  This matters.  The tale of how we got here doesn’t matter - the fact that we are living and breathing and reading this with or without tears in our eyes is what does matter.  Our own personal strength got us this far.  Be proud, friends - be very proud that you’re here.  

We all got here the best way we knew how. ❤️ And I’m proud of you all.

While ‘the best way we know how’ is simply that - there are always ways of opening our minds to other methods of growth and improvement.  There is always room to develop and to hone on our coping skills.  

Let us all be willing learn from one another.  Let us all remember that our unique perspectives can be valuable to others who are trying to arrive to the point in which we currently stand.  We all deserve to grow and to heal.  And we all will.  Of this, I am sure.

Let’s support each other in the best way we know how - because that’s how we roll. 

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Finchy

❤️ ❤️❤️ That was beautiful and powerful and so very needed. Thank you for sharing, Cap. 

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Capulet

Thank you, @Finchy!!  ❤️ I thought it might be.  So often, we struggle with how we’re going about things as we travel this road.  This hopefully will remind people that yes, while we make mistakes along the way, we were just doing the best we could do!!

I know that I found this reminder to be comforting in hindsight and it helps me to not beat myself up. 😉 

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