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anger, where are you?

Haze_D

Entry posted by Haze_D in Healing ·

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people tell me how horrible you are.
without prompt, they count the ways they would hang you,
spit in your face.
and as they tell me, they look at me for reassurance,

	but I give them none.


i wish i hated you.
i wish i too had a long list of excruciating deaths I could serve you.
they say you deserve that,
you killed a piece of me,
an eye for an eye, a life for a life?

		i’m not so sure.


i know i’m supposed to feel the anger in my bones.
i sometimes think something is wrong with me.
perhaps your insidious grip is still wrapped around me,

			perhaps it’s the only thing I know.


the thing is,
it’s easier to hate myself.
it’s easier to blame myself then admit that you hurt me. 
that you killed me,
				because where would that leave me?

 
so yes, i’ll take the blame.
i’ll save the fiery slow death that you no doubly deserve.
					i’ll save myself the pain of dying again.

I had a session the other week and my therapist wanted me to connect with my anger. I've always had a hard time feeling angry towards my abuser. Logically, I know I should. If I were an outsider, I would feel angry towards him. However, emotionally, I can't feel it. The anger feels so far away. So, I wrote this. 

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Dahlia29

Hi @Haze_D Your poetry is always so powerful and strong! In reading the caption about the conversation with the therapist, I was reminded of an exercise someone on the AS board suggested to me. She said that it had helped her to write her own story out and then to try to read it as if it was someone else's, not her own. I am going to try this, too. I don't really know why, as survivors of sexual abuse, it is so much easier to feel anger on the behalf of others. But maybe this is part of a process and maybe as you continue on in your healing journey, you will strip down more layers and find new emotions that may feel too intense to feel right now. Sitting with you. :hug:

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ambergirl

What you are feeling is not strange i have felt it too. I often don't really feel the anger towards sexual abusers/assaulters that other people do. But i feel really mad at the people who mistreat the survivor after the fact. The friend who doesn't listen or accuses them of lying etc. Thank you for sharing your poems with us ❤️ sitting with you

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