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Bernadette, not sure what you shared with your friend nor what caused the emotional cut-off. Sounds like to follow-up with your therapist with or without your friend may benefit you. I had a best friend for over 15 years who finally did the emotional cut-off as well. She could not handle that I chose to be in a dysfunctional relationship- so she did not speak to me for over a year. I understand your pain cause it was very painful losing the best friend I thought I ever had...

I told her every detail of my rape, my daughter born out of it and i trusted her and she abandoned me maybe i will eventually come to terms with all of it but losing her set me back and thank you for your compassion i hope your friend came back to u

Good luck with your friend situation. You may not know me, but I care about what happened to you. If you are brave enough to share your story again, I believe you will find a friend who accepts you and will not cut you out of their life. Wish you the best.

update ...... my friend has not spoken to me since no matter that i have tried so many times, i dont understand it she has known me for thirty years, and she just dosent want to know me anymore is it so discusting to her that i was raped, am i not good enough to be friends with just because of being violated, i really dont know whats wrong i am not a horrible evil person i just had horrible evil things happen to me, why cant she just give me a hug like she used to

Hi Bernadette, I'm new on this site & have come across some of what you wrote about you & your friend. I know it. Was a while ago, but I totally understand what you was feeling. The same thing happened with me after I told my best friend, I felt like I was grieving, still do. I felt stupid for telling her in the first place. I do hope you sorted thing out.