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What do you wish people knew or understood about the rape so that they could help you now?

JustSam

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That it is not (as I've tried to believe) "just something that happened a long time ago". It is something that still makes me feel sick inside every day. 
That the effects run much deeper than they could imaging, deeper than I ever thought before I started really looking, and probably deeper still than I am currently aware. 
That So very many things can be a trigger, and this can change depending on how I'm feeling. If I'm feeling low, Everything makes me think about it and feel even more sh!t. 
Mostly I just wish people understood rape. I wish thay knew that it isn't 'normally' like what you see on the news. 75-90% of the time it is someone you know, a date/friend/boyfriend, not a stranger at the bus stop, it happens at their house or your own, somewhere you should have felt safe. That freezing is as 'normal' a response to this as 'fight or flight'. I wish people just knew this, I wish I'd known this.

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healingt

I agree. Especially about the triggers. I always end up seeing connections that aren't there: not because I want to, but because I can't stop. 

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oceonwaves

The effects seem never ending, I think society doesn't want to hear this.  I really agree  with your post.

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GaleH

I went to people i felt safe with and they said well you are an adult now. I hate how everyone treated me. My husband doesnt understand why i dont to talk to family . and majes me feel guilty and mean for not wanting to talk to people thst made me feel worse than the aytack itself

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