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#766 CopperPhoenix

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Posted 23 August 2013 - 08:57 PM

Today I sat and blissed out to some incredible music, did a huge cleansing meditation.



#767 tangles

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Posted 05 September 2013 - 08:08 PM

I hugged my daughter extra long and gave her a few extra kisses.



#768 CopperPhoenix

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Posted 05 September 2013 - 08:33 PM

Today I got out of the house and stayed that way.  Explored a couple shops I hadn't been in before, bought some adorable socks (bright colors with white peace signs on them!!!) and took myself out to a Chinese dinner.

 

I'm wiped but a very happy camper.



#769 CopperPhoenix

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Posted 15 September 2013 - 08:30 PM

Today I realized that I was in no shape to go anywhere, so I stayed home and rested.  Mostly.



#770 ShylaRose

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Posted 16 September 2013 - 02:01 AM

Nothing,sadly

#771 CopperPhoenix

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Posted 16 September 2013 - 07:10 PM

I indulged in the most divinely rich and gooey caramel sundae, made with Rocky Road ice cream and topped with toasted pecans. 



#772 guessangelina

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Posted 17 September 2013 - 01:10 PM

It was difficult coming to this site today...I need to share my story- but do not know where to post it...I do not even know if I am ready to tell it...the Sleeping With The Enemy Comes to my mind at this time...yes, I have been in contact with the perpetrator...oh, he doesn't want anything to do with me...hmmm, let's see, he accused me of calling him names...well, could calling him a "rapist" be one of them? Really? Was it a lie? Of course not...did he ever apologize? No...but I am the "bad" person- because I called it what it was- or should I say- called him what he is...when a woman says "no"- she means "no"..no, it was not the whole enchilada, so to speak...only because he is not able to perform...but what he did was just as violent and damaging to me- even if he could have done the whole act, it would not have hurt me any more or any less! I said "no"! I keep playing the scene over and over in my mind...he knew he was going to do it that very day, that very night...but I did not know....if it didn't happen then- it just would have happened another time. All I thought I wanted was for him to apologize- to say that he was sorry- but he wouldn't! I never would have said anything about it...I was so afraid to be alone with him after that...course, it didn't take long before our relationship broke-off again...this time cause he was going back to the ex...oh yeah, that is what he really needed to tell me after violating me- he was now getting his dream come true and the ex wanted to reconcile with him..only, I didn't let him leave without him knowing what we both knew- and I gave him the name that he is- but I am the bad person for calling him that- not that he is the bad person for doing what he did.! So, I have chatted via text with him recently...oh yeah, that is what restrictions he has me back on- text only! He doesn't want to see me or speak to me on the phone...I thought I could forgive him without him ever apologizing...but can I live with the elephant in the room? So, being the narcissitic person that he is- he has turn the tables around, and now I am the bad person- I called him a rapist...and that is exactly what he is...that is exactly what he did to me...but what eats at me every day of my life- is the "why"....it is the answer I will never have...why me, why now, what did I deserve for him to do this to me? I had known him since I was 17 years old...had dated him for the past 8 years on and off....had taken the emotional cut-off from him time and time again...being treated so poorly...there was no reason for him to hold me down with his body weight, no reason to go against my will...no reason for him not to listen to my pleas of "no"!


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#773 ~*chelsea*~

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Posted 22 September 2013 - 12:15 AM

today, all I did was sleep, housework, drank and ate... oh yeah and now im on the computer, lol



#774 CrystalGirl

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Posted 22 September 2013 - 10:49 AM

I spend some time playing basketball with my adoptive sister (and also survivor) Lucy.

It was fun, and I am happy that I saw her smiling as well.

 

 

Crystal



#775 ShylaRose

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Posted 22 September 2013 - 06:47 PM

I told my husband the truth. I told him something Ive been holding back for four years.

#776 CopperPhoenix

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Posted 22 September 2013 - 09:05 PM

Today I worked on my novel for a solid hour, let myself get lost in characters and scene and plot.  It felt good.



#777 guessangelina

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Posted 23 September 2013 - 06:59 PM

Shyla rose, I think you are the one that wrote that you told your husband the truth...it took courage! Way to go!



#778 CopperPhoenix

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Posted 23 September 2013 - 08:34 PM

Today I snuggled Furball until she nearly fell asleep in my lap.  You could say she was almost cat-atonic.....



#779 lostandfoundbox

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Posted 24 September 2013 - 01:23 AM

Today I snuggled Furball until she nearly fell asleep in my lap.  You could say she was almost cat-atonic.....


Haha, that was very punny!

#780 ViciousCirce

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Posted 24 September 2013 - 02:25 PM

I let myself dance at a wedding with a beautiful girl, even though it was scary :)

 

(Technically that was a couple days ago. Whatever)