Edited by shortcake, 13 June 2011 - 11:52 AM.
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Suggestion For Chat?
#1
Posted 25 March 2011 - 06:15 PM
#2
Posted 26 March 2011 - 04:03 AM
Also, creating division in gender is going to cause issues, not solve them. People will see a male and run rather than actually take the time to talk to them. Also, men are vastly out numbered. We'd stick out as some random color and when someone asks "Why are you grey/purple/neon yellow" we have to say "Oh, because I'm male and obviously a minority...so feel free to be careful about what you say around me and treat me differently." Pass.
I know none of the the above is your intention with the idea and understand that you suggest it without these considerations in mind, I just see it turning into more discrimination for us.
#3
Posted 26 March 2011 - 04:06 AM
Also may a color for males and females.
I really don't like to guess.
And I don't wanna make any gender feel bad.
Found
Generally genders are listed in member account profiles. And one can always simply ask. There are quite a few members with ambigious names, so it's not an uncommon thing.
#4
Posted 26 March 2011 - 11:01 AM
Edited by shortcake, 13 June 2011 - 11:53 AM.
#5
Posted 26 March 2011 - 06:16 PM
As for the male-female colors...I agree with Shido. I think it would become a form of discrimination or even unintentional segregation. I know when I go into chat, I don't think about the gender of the members....I just know I'm talking to other AS members.
#6
Posted 26 March 2011 - 08:14 PM
Edited by FairyWings1986, 26 March 2011 - 08:14 PM.
#7
Posted 26 March 2011 - 08:57 PM
Edited by shortcake, 13 June 2011 - 11:53 AM.
#8
Posted 26 March 2011 - 09:31 PM
Thanks.
#9
Posted 27 March 2011 - 01:59 AM
Also, creating division in gender is going to cause issues, not solve them. People will see a male and run rather than actually take the time to talk to them. Also, men are vastly out numbered. We'd stick out as some random color and when someone asks "Why are you grey/purple/neon yellow" we have to say "Oh, because I'm male and obviously a minority...so feel free to be careful about what you say around me and treat me differently." Pass.
I know none of the the above is your intention with the idea and understand that you suggest it without these considerations in mind, I just see it turning into more discrimination for us.
True. I never thought about that. But, I would never run. Men and boys deserve the same amount of support as the females. Thanks for your imput.
#10
Posted 27 March 2011 - 02:01 AM
I had no intent of being discriminatory, I just thought this would make things easier for newer members (male OR female) who may feel uncomfortable first entering chat and not feeling welcomed right away because some members don't know they are new, that's all.
Sorry I didn't mean to sound discriminating, never my intention.
#11
Posted 27 March 2011 - 02:02 AM
#12
Posted 28 March 2011 - 05:46 AM
A problem with new people having a different colour is that someone who may have been on AS for years but is new to the chat would appear as a new member, and a new member who comes in every day would still be like a newbie and people may start welcoming them and explaining to them about the chat room every time they go in.
The chat mods are looking to start hosting some chats for people new to chat to orientate them, so hopefully this will help too.
Possum
#13
Posted 28 March 2011 - 06:52 AM
when im in chat i sometimes i feel like im sayin the wrong thing and maybe this could help the other member not take as much offence, seeing that im only starting of.
and alot of the abbrv i dont get and feel stupid askin, so it could help there to.
#14
Posted 28 March 2011 - 11:56 AM
#15
Posted 28 March 2011 - 04:27 PM
Take care,
Becky



