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From Victim To Survivor To Thriver
Posted 17 December 2010 - 02:57 PM
Posted 05 January 2011 - 03:53 PM
Posted 09 January 2011 - 05:09 PM
I'm also a very visual learner, and I get very impatient with myself. This was so, so helpful to just slow down and really think about where I'm at.
I'm also going to share it with the people who are helping to take care of me.
Posted 12 January 2011 - 11:20 AM
i thought ide be nearly all in the survivor. but then i got 10 victim, 12 survivor, and 3 thriver.
boom, know what i need to work on!
thanks for sharing, this is a brill chart :D
Posted 12 January 2011 - 12:54 PM
I am surprised that I still have 5 of the victimesque symptoms (for lack of better word) but am largely in the thriver category. I really like that word. Thriver. I don't like using "victim" or "survivor" to describe myself because I feel like it suggests that's my one thing, my one story, and it's not. From now on I'm going to think of myself as a thriver. It's been a long row to hoe but I feel like the seeds are at least planted for a beautiful garden someday.
Plus, I love charts. They are a teacher's friend.
Posted 17 January 2011 - 07:46 AM
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Posted 04 March 2011 - 12:41 PM
Thanks for posting it.
Edited by Tessa, 04 March 2011 - 12:42 PM.
Posted 10 April 2011 - 12:57 PM
I'm so backwards on some of these. This is a good chart to see where my thinking is flawed. I must admit there is a part of me that feels very defensive when people bring up the "victim" vs. "survivor" definitions, because its like categorizing us into "good" or "bad", but maybe that's just me. I think when someone says "your acting like a victim" My first response would be a deep sense of personal shame at having failed at being the "good" rape victim/survivor.
Posted 10 April 2011 - 06:24 PM
Reading the thriver ways of being has actually gotten through all my negativity and reached me brain!
And though I am embarrassed to still be mostly victim with some survivor, I can see that I actually did make some good progress in the last decade, and that maybe I've taken a lot of steps backwards recently because have been struggling so very much
Posted 17 April 2011 - 10:41 PM
readin and seein that i am more on the survivor side made me cry... bc i havent really considered myself a survivor. and it makes me feel hopeful to continue and to get to thriver.... esp when i still have bad days.. i can tell myself.. you are a survivor and be able to look at that chart for help.