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From Victim To Survivor To Thriver


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#16 Anala

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Posted 25 May 2010 - 10:54 PM

Thank you for this post.

#17 calliehere

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Posted 27 May 2010 - 12:16 AM

You're very welcome. I have printed this out each week and tracked where I am at. Helps me to get a more clear path of what I need to work on. I sometimes share it with my T.

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Posted 27 May 2010 - 12:38 AM

Wow this chart was really useful. I look at it and I can definitely see where I was 4 years ago or so compared to now. It's been a slow progression, but I definitely see myself mostly in the thrivor category, with some in the survivor category. I still feel unsure about sharing my story though. It's not something I tell a lot of people, but if I feel the person is safe, I will share. Other than that, life is day to day for me. Sometimes it's tough when reminders or nightmares occasionally come along. But now I feel more of a fighting spirit then I once did. I feel very passionate about helping victims of sexual assault. I'm working on becoming a nurse, and hope to one day become certified to help in that area.

#19 gymnast4191

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Posted 27 May 2010 - 09:47 PM

Great post!

#20 Tryn

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Posted 03 June 2010 - 07:11 AM

Thanks for posting this. I just printed it out too. To help remind me of what a realistic life I could have. It really gave me hope.

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#21 Irish Dance Lass 20

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Posted 03 June 2010 - 11:26 PM

Hey all just wanted to be helpful smile.gif

HP means Higher Power like God or Buddha or Mohammad or whomever you believe in if you believe in anything at all. I know this because I am a member of Alanon (support group for loved ones of alcoholics) and one of the step in both AA and Alanon the 2nd and 3rd steps are these:

2.Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God or our Higher Power as we understood Him/Her.

your HP could anything, such as God or as obscure as a coffee mug or tree or whatever.

MY HP personally is God.

Hope this helps smile.gif



#22 Irish Dance Lass 20

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Posted 03 June 2010 - 11:28 PM

QUOTE (tehfraga @ May 7 2010, 12:23 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is great, printing it out now. Thanks!


~Possible Trigger, IDK~
Question, in 'Beyond telling their story, but always aware they have created their own healing with HP' what does HP mean?

HP means Higher Power like God,Buddha,mohammad whomever you choose.

Also your HP or Higher power does not have to be religious in nature your HP can be anyone or anything that you want that you are comfortable with

#23 Anonymouse09

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Posted 04 June 2010 - 12:14 AM

Great Post! Very helpful! Sadly I call myself a survivor... and I WANT to say I am all those things in the survivor column, but the sad truth is I am still very much a victim, but I guess wanting to be a survivor is the first step smile.gif

#24 Charlie29

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Posted 04 June 2010 - 01:43 AM

how long will it take to turn from a victim to a survivor? i feel like i have always been a victim and dont know what to do to feel as tho i will overcome this. i dont think its something you can really get over but i want to be able to let it be part of my past so that i can start enjoying life. sad.gif

#25 calliehere

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Posted 04 June 2010 - 02:05 AM

QUOTE (Charlie29 @ Jun 3 2010, 11:43 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
how long will it take to turn from a victim to a survivor? i feel like i have always been a victim and dont know what to do to feel as tho i will overcome this. i dont think its something you can really get over but i want to be able to let it be part of my past so that i can start enjoying life. sad.gif


Hi Charlie,

I don't think there is a time frame that any of us can put on our healing process. It all comes to us at our own pace. Its like the previous poster said...maybe wanting it is the first step. Then, maybe pick a category or two from the list to work on.

You are not alone...

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#26 Em-uh-lynn

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Posted 04 June 2010 - 02:09 AM

This is really helpful, to see thee different stages an where I'm at. Sadly, I'm still mostly in te victim category, but I hope to change that and I am trying. Thank you for sharing.

#27 Charlie29

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Posted 05 June 2010 - 12:19 AM

thanks guys. im really glad i found this site. i guess u could say i just started the "healing process" and its really great to see all this support. i feel that my friends dont really understand what im going through and how im feeling. its almost a relief to know that there are so many other women out there who have over come sexual abuse, even though i wish it wouldnt happen to anyone. any way im really glad i found this site. smile.gif

#28 SlitherinSisters

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Posted 10 June 2010 - 12:57 PM

Thank you for that chart. I wondered what I was called. A thriver, I like that. I'm pretty well healed and I want to help others. I can talk about my past without crying or feeling sad for what I have gone through.

I promise that everyone else will get there. It take a lot of work, and a lot of pain, but it's very possible!

#29 niqueynique

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Posted 18 June 2010 - 11:14 PM

I loved that. Thank you! I added the link in my blog.

(I am big NASCAR and Jeff Gordon fan...bring on the boo's LoL!)

It reminded me of the encouragement chart that Jeff Gordon had when he first started driving in the Cup Series:

From Rookie to Upstart
From Upstart to Winner
From Winner to Champion
From Champion to Dominance (I think that was what Champion was to turn in to)

I think it a motivation to see how you can get from one to another. And it kinda gives you a path to get there!

Thank you for sharing that!

#30 EmptyWithin

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Posted 12 July 2010 - 01:08 AM

Hmmmmm *thinks* thanks for posting this, i think im mainly in the victim area- but i dont like that label... in some parts i fall into survivor 533.gif