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From Victim To Survivor To Thriver
Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:18 PM
I printed out the list and put a check mark in each catergory to see where I am at. I wasn't happy to see that I was mostly in the victim column but I'm a visual learner so it gave me an idea of what I really need to work on right now.
Anyways, I wanted to share the chart with everyone. http://www.cbwhit.co...to-survivor.htm
Some of the wording about the behavior might be triggering.
I hope this helps.
Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:21 PM
Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:23 PM
~Possible Trigger, IDK~
Question, in 'Beyond telling their story, but always aware they have created their own healing with HP' what does HP mean?
Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:36 PM
Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:46 PM
I find that I can flip from one category to another... like, within a day. I'm going to take it as a good thing though
really great - and yeah , what does HP mean? lol
Posted 06 May 2010 - 11:47 PM
it's interesting for me. i really think it depends on my cycle how i fit in. lots of times i feel like a survivor or even a thriver, but right at this moment i'm feeling a lot more victim-esque.
Posted 07 May 2010 - 12:18 AM
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Posted 09 May 2010 - 05:38 PM
Posted 10 May 2010 - 05:15 AM
Posted 10 May 2010 - 07:12 AM
I had to put two marks in "victim" myself if I'm very honest and that was enlightening, I looked at what "survivor" and "thriver" for that line would be and thought of it a bit like when someone says to you "try looking at it this way". It was interesting and I hope those people who are getting a lot of ticks in "victim" are able to look at the survivor column for hints on where to perhaps try heading next on thier healing path. I found the rest of my answers split, mostly "survivor" and perhaps a quarter to a third in "thiver". This was also helpfull because I had a sense that Ok I can write some of these off as satisfacory and focus on the other bits where I agree with the author.
I'm glad you posted this I really am.
Posted 10 May 2010 - 09:47 AM
It does help to see it laid out in words like that, though... it gives me a bit of an idea of where to go next.
Thanks for sharing.
Posted 10 May 2010 - 01:26 PM
My Therapist gave me a list of traits that are common among survivors. I have to find it, it was good.
Posted 10 May 2010 - 05:22 PM
Also, I feel like some of them were a bit confusing and I wish they could be explained or something.