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Posted 22 October 2004 - 06:01 AM

I hope its not been too bad a time for you and I hope that the jury see sense ...Thinking about you .. hug.gif

#17 Jill

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Posted 22 October 2004 - 11:06 AM

Hello Everyone!

Well, this piece of my life has finally come to a close. I cannot express the relief I feel!!!

The jury found him guilty of only one charge, the domestic battery. All other charges were found to be not guilty. His sentence was for a mere 364 days, and he served exactly that. He is not a US citizen, so there is an immigration hold on him and because of that, he was not released last night. He was held in custody and now has to deal INS. There is a possibility that they will deport him. The prosecutor is going to help me so I can stay abreast of that situation.

I know that he definitely got his monies worth out of his defense attorney's and that they were merely doing their job. I feel that my attorney did an incredible job as well. I am grateful for her and for my advocate!!!!! It is sad to me how our judicial system operates. And I have learned more this week than I ever wanted to know.

Before sentencing I was provided an opportunity to speak and I must say that I am so glad I did. It was the most liberating moment of my life!!!!!! I spoke to him face to face, eye to eye! And told him that what he received tonight was the "deal of a lifetime" and that I hoped he was grateful! I told him that the only two people in the courtroom this week that knew the absolute truth were he and I. And that I spoke the truth!!!! And that if he believed that he did as well, then he is more sick than I knew. And that it really didn't matter. That he has robbed me of the last year of my life and that he would never take anything from me ever again!!! I told him that...one day he will have his day with his higher power and that is what matters. I also thanked him for teaching me invaluable lessons about myself and what I deserve and what I will never, ever allow anyone to do to me again! I also thanked him for teaching me part of my purpose on this earth.....to protect myself and others from him (and people like him) and that I will continue my journey and support other victims so they can find the strength to protect themselves by finding the courage to do what I did here this week!

So, now I may close this chapter and embrace all the greatness that life has in store for me.

Thank you, all of you...for your prayers, love, friendship and support. I could not have made it through this week without each of you! With love and many many thanks!!! Warmly, Jill