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#1 Guest_spinifer_*

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Posted 04 October 2004 - 03:05 AM

hiye evrybody, dance.gif
I'm new ere.I was browsing thru the internet about the topic when found my way ere.
Well, I'm ere because my girlfriend. She was raped around a year ago and until today seems to be in a lot of stress. It's hurt for me to see her this way. I've tried to help and talk to her but my lack of experience and short of know-how limits my ability to reach and help her. Somtimes I ended up hurting her feeling and mine also.
I hope you all can help to tell me what should I do and shouldn't do to make her happy again. All I want is for her to put the bad past behind and live her life fully..

#2 Charlene

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Posted 04 October 2004 - 05:20 AM

welcome and i hope that you find what you're looking for here throb.gif

#3 Guest_butterfly_*

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Posted 04 October 2004 - 07:59 AM

You are a good friend smile.gif throb.gif
I'm not sure what advise to give you, except to just be there for her with
love a support of what she's going through. I do know that she
needs to be the one to reach out for help and find support through
others who have been through the same thing.
I hope she does throb.gif

Butterfly hug.gif throb.gif hug.gif

#4 Heavensent

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Posted 04 October 2004 - 09:16 AM

Hi,
I was just on here last night ranting and angry because, after a person is raped or sexually abused, the perpetrator gets more support than the victim. It is comforting to know that there are people out there who understand that it is really traumatic. The first thing that I would tell you is that you can't fix it. Be a good listener, and I know that you are sorry that it happened to her, so tell her. You can tell her about this website. and otherwise just continue to be supportive and patient. smile.gif

#5 Survivors sanctuary

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Posted 04 October 2004 - 12:27 PM

I wish the world had more friends and people like you, I hope that this place can help you both find the path that you can follow ... Being there is a huge step for us victims ... More than some people realize sometimes .. Good luck and I hope your friend finds her healing journey .. hug.gif

#6 Guest_spinifer_*

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Posted 04 October 2004 - 07:36 PM

My hope also..
I'd told her about this website, hope she'll drop by. You all are a better person to listen to her than I am. Anyway,hope i can find somthing here to be a better listener than I am now. smile.gif

#7 Guest_SiempreSelena_*

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Posted 24 October 2004 - 12:31 AM

welcome.
well all I can say is just give her sometime and when she is ready to talk just listen and be there for her...which seems like you already are smile.gif