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#16 Atlantis

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Posted 07 September 2007 - 09:59 PM

What a great post there D. Being an ex-dressmaker, I've just made you up a virtual reflective piece of armour to wear, as a gift from me to say Thank You. Stay strong and wear this reflective coat of armour with pride - you deserve it for helping so many.

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Posted 08 September 2007 - 12:11 PM

Ooooh! Goody, I LOVE armor!! Can you mahe me a virtual shield and sword too? THAT would just be too cool! LOL
Blessings my friend, what a perfect gift! "D"

#18 Atlantis

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Posted 08 September 2007 - 01:57 PM

No problem, consider it virtually done and would you like a chariot as well? that might take a bit more time, as my skills are a bit rusty at the moment. smile.gif

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Posted 08 September 2007 - 02:01 PM

Thanks but grace is not my middle name, so how 'bout just a big black horse in armor,eh?! laugh.gif
Nothing like the warrior wrecking his own chariot to ruin his rep ! duh.gif
Blessings "D"

#20 Atlantis

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Posted 08 September 2007 - 02:35 PM

You drive a hard bargain there, but okay I'll take that challenge on, but I'll leave you to feed it. I think it will like virtual hay, but as it is coming from Scotland, I think Neeps and Tatties might go down better. wink.gif

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Posted 08 September 2007 - 02:47 PM

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Yeah well, what's one more horse to feed! duh.gif
Neeps and tatties huh, think Florida horses would go for it? It's gotta be cheaper! LOL
You my dear are a godess over the virtual world! bow.gif
Blessings,"D"

#22 sueellen

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Posted 22 September 2007 - 04:53 PM

Thanks for the post Determined. It hits a healing place within me. Not meaning to take over your thread, but I have recently and forever, been working on this self-blame issue. It is slowly coming to me that the blame is not mine. But this has left me with this terribly empty spot within. I no longer know who I am. I now need to begin finding that out.

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Posted 23 September 2007 - 08:14 AM

QUOTE(sueellen @ Sep 22 2007, 05:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks for the post Determined. It hits a healing place within me. Not meaning to take over your thread, but I have recently and forever, been working on this self-blame issue. It is slowly coming to me that the blame is not mine. But this has left me with this terribly empty spot within. I no longer know who I am. I now need to begin finding that out.

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In the beginning and at times I still feels this way too. But daily it's filling with love instead.
Blessings, Stacey

#24 michaelmac

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Posted 21 October 2007 - 05:16 AM

Great thread determined 1, This is what i tell my friends when they are feeling down, Every morning go into the bathroom and look into the mirror and say i am lovely what happened was not my fault, And in time you will believe it, Because you all are love michael

#25 Want to Survive

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Posted 21 October 2007 - 07:06 AM

D,
Your words are always so inspirational!Where do you get your stregnth,courage,and Determination?
Since I was old enough to understand what "fault"meant,I have always seen myself as the one at fault.
When I was little,my dress was too short,or I shouldn`t have hugged him,or why did I have to go to the barn to see the pony...........and now it`s,why did I go in that mans house,I`m 33 years old,I knew better!!!!!
So,I look forward to one day knowing,and believing for myself what you wrote.
Oh how wonderful it would be to believe I did nothing wrong. cry.gif

#26 fall

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Posted 21 October 2007 - 10:57 PM

you made me cry - again - but that is okay it means I won't blubber to the next person who says "have a nice day"

honestly when I read your posts especially one like this i just want to scream I Love you

somehow you challenge me in a good way hmm.gif buttkick.gif

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Posted 22 October 2007 - 07:35 AM

QUOTE(Want to Survive @ Oct 21 2007, 08:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
D,
Your words are always so inspirational!Where do you get your stregnth,courage,and Determination?
Since I was old enough to understand what "fault"meant,I have always seen myself as the one at fault.
When I was little,my dress was too short,or I shouldn`t have hugged him,or why did I have to go to the barn to see the pony...........and now it`s,why did I go in that mans house,I`m 33 years old,I knew better!!!!!
So,I look forward to one day knowing,and believing for myself what you wrote.
Oh how wonderful it would be to believe I did nothing wrong. cry.gif


Even I get down and scared at times, I just have a hard time accepting that I need help. Mostly my confidence wavers over being a good mom, damnit! What the hell do I do? Maybe because my teen years were so fucked up whenever he even acts depressed or lacks self esteem , I start to freak! I just don't want to "break him"! But he's 14 and from minute to minute I'm F*cking lost! I don't know which way to go , I'm petrified I'm gonna ruin his life, or he'll commit suicide cause I'm a horrible mom , or...BAH!!
I don't know, I'm just F*cking scared man!
"D"

#28 jillian57

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Posted 25 December 2007 - 12:54 AM

thanks for the post D. I was browsing through some of the older stuff on here and came across this,i really needed to hear this tonight. much love. hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

#29 littlelaurie

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Posted 12 July 2009 - 10:53 PM

What a great thread! I'm really glad I ventured into this area and read this post--very empowering!

Thank you for sharing smile.gif

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