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|Welcome to After Silence, a message board and chat room designed to help survivors communicate in the recovery of rape, sexual abuse, sexual assault, and all types of sexual violence.
After Silence has over 30 different forums, ranging from topics created to discuss specific areas of healing and recovery from rape and sexual violence, as well as forums open to general discussions and lighter topics. Because we value the privacy of our members, most of our forums are private, which means that ONLY REGISTERED members have access to them. Please register for a free account to gain full access to the After Silence Online Support Group.
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Posted 22 June 2004 - 11:55 AM
Posted 22 June 2004 - 11:56 AM
I think she is full of it. This is the same person who spammed my e-mails with all of her A Place To Heal. After I sent an e-mail (yes a nice one without cussing) asking her to please remove me from her contact list (that her e-mails were very triggering to me) what happened? My e-mail box was filled with very triggering rape abuse stories. And then she comes here and does this? Okay so you are going to post your site......but 17 times? And there is no malice behind that? RIGHT
I am sorry for what happened to her nobody should be raped or abused in any sort of way. But her being a survivor that she is, and being an owner of such a community you would think she would know the boundaries and be a little more sensitive to members of other boards. So how many more times does she get to come and trigger me? It was one thing to spam me with those horrible e-mails but to come in to MY place for MY healing and support is crossing the lines and it makes me very upset. This is the only place I have to come, this is where I am safe and can trust the members here.
I am sorry if this makes me seem like a stubborn cow But that's how I feel. If you read the TOS agreements for her community she is breaking the rules within her community and I just can't help but wonder...I know our moderators wouldn't impede on other communities like this.
I hope Nobody is Mad at me for it.
Posted 22 June 2004 - 12:05 PM
i totally agree!
i am sorry for using such strong language earlier but that doesn't excuse what she did. As a surivior she should have known what reaction she would get- even if she is only 14, a bit of common sense wouldn't have gone amiss!
sweet_annie14 Posted on Jun 22 2004, 01:27 PM
what do you expect? you spammed our board, a place that is very special to us! can you not see why we were all so angry?
i don't think it is fair of you to try an dturn it around and make us out to be the bad guys because we're not
maybe next time you should think about the appropriateness, (or rather, lack of it!) of your posts!
if you are heal to heal, that's fine, i welcome you and i am very sorry for your experiences but i'm not sure that was the purpose of your being here
Edited by betty, 22 June 2004 - 12:08 PM.
Posted 22 June 2004 - 12:13 PM
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Posted 22 June 2004 - 12:31 PM
Posted 22 June 2004 - 12:32 PM
If she had done any research on us before she started spamming she would have seen there is a thread about her community and her e-mail spam she has been sending us. Somebody actually lists the name of her community in that thread...she would have seen that it was unapprieciated and probably not the best idea to post her advertisment 17 times here.
I am sorry if I offended any of the members of our board, that is never my intention. When I signed on last night and almost every part of the forum with that post I was furious..I absolutely wanted to cry..I know she says she is 14 and to be an owner or part of a yahoo community you have to have your parents permission so I am glad she has her parents support to heal and belong to healing communties...but I don't think being 14 is an excuse for her spam. I don't feel supported by her or her community..I feel harrassed.
I kinda feel like her post was saying leave this board and come in here. Need more support? I feel like she was questioning the intregrity and support of the Mods and all of us here..and that really hurt.
Okay I am dropping it now I just wanted to get that in. I am extremely sorry if I offended any members on the board.
Posted 22 June 2004 - 04:51 PM
I was 1 of the 1st 2 read the post but i didnt know if i was right in replyin with my anger/upset/anoyed feelings so i didnt but i was heaps anoyed/upset/angrey i couldnt believe wot i was seeing.....
Thanku all 4 ur words which i couldnt post/say-i felt u all felt wot i did when i read & saw her post.....
i didnt even understand her post & i read it like 5 times?!?!?!?
If she is happy 2 b here as a survivour & gain healing here then i welcome her,not with open arms but with distance until i know i can trust her as i feel she has takin that right off the bat & misused it.....
im sorry 4 her pain,young age & her child like knowlage-she has a lot stil 2 learn.....
I hope she has learnt from this as we all may have.....
Posted 22 June 2004 - 05:11 PM
Anyone registering to spam this forum is an automatic ban...don't just say you agree with the Terms of Service if you haven't read them.
This member has already been banned and I am closing this thread to avoid further upsetting of our wonderful members.
Thanks to all of you in advance for being so patient and understanding. You are what makes this community as wonderful as it is!
Posted 22 June 2004 - 06:12 PM
Now I have been thinking about it and the all thing is pretty suspicious. While arguing with the real founder of the group(Heater) through emails she kept repeating "why isn't more love and support good??", which is just the same title of the spam thread more or less. In addition to that the thread was posted after I have written to Heater that I was not going to reply or even to read any of her emails again, in fact she emailed me again and I deleted it without even opening it....so you have more information.