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Invalidation. Words Can Hurt!
Posted 30 March 2004 - 10:18 AM
"Cheer up, things can only get so bad. If you have a smile on your face all the time things are bound to get better."
...yeah, thanks ass hole. I thought things couldn't get any worse before and look, here we are at worse...what's the next stop, Hell?! Keep a smile on my face? Well let me just pull out my lipstick and paint it on cause I feel like the corners of my mouth are about to touch my feet. Got any clips I could use to clip my mouth up into a smile?
Posted 30 March 2004 - 02:24 PM
My brother: "Lin, if you're doing this to f*ck up the guy, then you're fucked up!"
"Take a pregnancy test and if it comes up positive, tell mom, otherwise, keep your mouth shut"
From my boss when I needed time
"Are you sure this happened? You didn't dream this did you?"
From my boss, this time when I was browsing through A Sorta Fundraiser website:
"Incest. We shouldn't be helping people who are victims of incest. No one knows what is like to be raped. When you come into work and someone steals a sale from you, that's a f*ck up the ass."
My reply was: "How dare you, you know I am a survivor."
His smart ass remark:
"Who raped you, Fran?" (Meaning my close friend Francesca.
I cried for 2 days after that...
I've been told smart remarks too, but guess they weren't as bad because I have seemed to forget them.
Posted 30 March 2004 - 03:05 PM
Posted 30 March 2004 - 06:21 PM
"Well, if she wouldn't have been at the bar/back alley/bad part of town, this would have never happened!"
AND these are NURSES?!?!?!
How can people be so cruel and thoughtless? I guess I just should hope and pray it never happens to them... and someday when I have the guts, speak up about my own past.
*Sigh *rolls eyes
Posted 30 March 2004 - 07:15 PM
Posted 30 March 2004 - 07:53 PM
Posted 31 March 2004 - 12:22 AM
great thread idea. thanks. -smiles and hugs-
'you have nothing to be crying about, so stop crying. you have nothing to feel bad about.'
'don't let him make you a vicitm. (but) you were a victim of a crime.'
'we're going to press legal action/charges wether you like it or not.'
'let me see your scars (self-injury).'
'what exactly did he do/say/touch/etc. you. exact dates, times, etc.'
good thread. thanks.
Posted 01 April 2004 - 02:06 PM
Posted 01 April 2004 - 09:41 PM
[Edited on 4-2-2004 by Kelly]
Posted 01 April 2004 - 10:03 PM
The wild thing about it is my mother was abused by her father all her childhood. I thought she would understand. She doesn't even believe me
Posted 02 April 2004 - 12:31 AM
from a former best friend - we're no longer talking: when I said how my dad would yell at me when my mom wouldn't sleep with him since this was somehow my fault "oh, you know why...it's because you look just like your mother..."
or this from another close friend:"are you sure you didn't hallucinate it, I mean you were really hallucinating a lot of things at the time."
from a stupid psychiatrist: "you actually think what?" okay it's not called mental illness for nothing, you'd think he never had a patient before, though he had been in practice for 25 yrs.
But I also had a thought: Let's start a thread of the nicest, strongest, wisest, most encouraging words people have spoken to us.
Posted 02 April 2004 - 11:50 PM
"It's in the past now, don't let it bother you any more!" rrrrrright....sh*t for brains, you are quailfied to say this why??? Oh that's right, you're not so shut the f**k up.
"Like my life isn't bad enough right now, I have to listen and support you with your 'poor me' past bull sh*t. Move on, you can't be hurting that bad from something that happened in your past!" Thanks a lot jerk, now I feel like crawling under a rock for the rest of my life.
There you go...I have heard all three of these today...I feel like sh*t. :mad:
Posted 03 April 2004 - 02:51 AM
"She asked for it"
"When her father comes home from jail(goal) 2 live with us i wil have 2 keep an eye on "Sookie""
My bro"Nothin happened she just wants 2 take away my good dad"
(He was @ da age of really needin him..)
my bro even went as far as 2 call me a sl*t..
Ive only just got contact with my mother again thou id never 4give norr 4get wot she said..
(am i crazy 2 want contact with her again after all that?!)
guess we wil c if so..
STICKS EN STONES CAN BREAK MY BONES BUT NAMES CAN NEVER HURT ME-im not sure this childrens ryhme is true now..
((huggles,smiles en friendship love)) xo
P.S: May every nice words we say 2 1 another whipe away all the bad 1s.!
Posted 03 April 2004 - 03:00 AM
"Did u enjoy it??" -Yeah thats y i put a stop 2 it/sum ppl r just stupid!!
"Did he..??!!"-enter ere any s*xu*al thing thats 2 do with s*x (L*ckin,t**chin,f**gerin..)
Thou i sumtimes dont mind the q i have found ive got 2 b prpaired 4 them so i think this notice/forum is good 4 every1 as we can all get ready 4 ANY q that wil b asked 2 us bout it..
((huggles,smiles en friendship love)) xo
Posted 03 April 2004 - 03:21 AM
mostly just ignorant male double standards and him trying to continuously convince me that his life is more terrible than mine. i just don't care about that, i just wanted him to be my friend when i needed it. no one ever really was.
<3 ignore em! :P