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#1 Jolanda


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Posted 05 June 2004 - 12:11 PM

Hi everybody,

My name is Jolanda, I'm 28 years old, from Amsterdam in The Netherlands.
I've been abused since I was a child, sexually, mentally, and finally I found the courage to cry out for help. Starting therapy in hopefully a few weeks. It is still very difficult for me to talk about what happened, and as it is my first time speaking out I'm a rape victim "on public" I like to leave it by introducing myself for the time being. It is, how sad it might be, nice for me to see I'm not alone in all the pain and anger. Take care of of you beautiful girls, 'till next time,

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#2 Ardatha


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Posted 05 June 2004 - 04:52 PM

Hello Jolanda,

Good for you for finding your courage, dear one. Welcome here, also. I'm really sorry to hear that you need to be here but this is a good place to be. The people here are very supportive and understanding. Best wishes with your therapy. It can be one of the most valuable tools you'll ever find.

Stay safe,


#3 -Nene-


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Posted 05 June 2004 - 05:17 PM

Hi Jolanda
I'm glad you've found us here. I'm sorry to hear about your abuse.
I think its a great step (and a couragous one) to start therapy and I wish you
all the luck in the world with that hug.gif . I look forward to getting to know
you a little better in the future.


#4 aquapit


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Posted 05 June 2004 - 11:43 PM

Welcome to After Silence Jolanda! hug.gif

I hope you find what you are looking for here! I look forward to getting to know you.

Take precious care of yourself.

throb.gif Tracy

#5 betty


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Posted 06 June 2004 - 06:46 AM

welcome hug.gif
everyone here is great and will support you on your journey.


#6 mariposa


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Posted 06 June 2004 - 06:12 PM

i'm sorry for your pain, and i congratulate you on your bravery for coming here! Hope i can get to know you better. hug.gif

#7 Guest_queenie_*

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Posted 07 June 2004 - 09:57 AM


I am so sorry you have a reason for being here but I am glad you are here and have found us. What a brave and strong woman you are, speaking out about it even just to us here on the board is a Huge step. We are all here to support you as best we can!

Sending Lots of Love

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#8 Jolanda


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Posted 10 June 2004 - 04:22 PM

Thank you all for being so kind. It makes me feel less lonely and understood. Lately I'm finding it difficult to watch tv, speaking about violant movies and especially the ones with sex abuse in it. It can bring me in a flashback, and it made me turn of the whole tv. I hope this will get better in a while, as I do like watching my soap opera's, ... kitty.gif Love, Jolanda

#9 aquapit


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Posted 10 June 2004 - 05:12 PM

hug.gif Jolanda hug.gif Glad we can be here for you. You are never alone.

throb.gif hug.gif Tracy

#10 Survivors sanctuary

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Posted 11 June 2004 - 08:43 AM

Hi........Hope you find the comfort that comes off in waves through the people here hug.gif hug.gif

#11 Lindy


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Posted 12 June 2004 - 12:42 PM

Welcome to After Silence, Jolanda. I'm sorry for the reasons that brought you here, however, I am glad you have stumbled across this wonderfully supportive place.

Take gentle care,


#12 phoenyx


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Posted 12 June 2004 - 01:33 PM

(((Jolanda))) Warm welcome to the group. I am sorry for the pain that has brought you here. You are courageous for entering therapy. I have found it to be very valuable in my healing. You are not alone, this is a wonderfully supportive community. Be gentle with yourself as you heal.

Edited by phoenyx, 12 June 2004 - 01:35 PM.

#13 your.beautiful.mistake



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Posted 12 June 2004 - 10:24 PM


Welcome to the group. I'm sorry you've experienced so much pain, but I'm glad you've found us. Take your time to look around.

((safe hugs))