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Posted 09 October 2003 - 01:04 AM
Thanks for the help everyone, I really appreciate it.
P.S. - I hope everyone is doing well.
Posted 09 October 2003 - 06:52 AM
**** Could be tt *****
I have read your post, usually I would'nt have read something graphical, but I could relate to so much, of what you said, and thought, to reply to you, which I wanted, I had to read it.
Usually, I would have been triggered, but Hey, I am ok.
In regards to your question, I will say something re me, and what my therapist told me.
When i was abused at an older age, 14-18, I would get sensations down below, when they did things, at the time, I was not sure what it meant, but now, after actually talking to a counsellor, it was an orgasm, I felt dirty etc, but the truth of it is, I was a youn lady, not really a child anymore, and it was normal for me to have sensations down below, although not normal to be abused. Hope this makes sense?
Counsellor said, it was not dirty, it was a woman responding to stimulation down there, which is normal, what was wrong about it, for me was that I was being abused by my dad. In your case, what was wrong about it, was you were being raped, although you repeatedly Said NO.
The only way, you could deal with it, was thinking of your husband, that is normal, ((((((Donna))))))).
I truly hope that I have written this ok, just wanted to try and explain, how I dealt with that problem of guilt re my orgasm when my so called dad did things.
Posted 09 October 2003 - 07:33 AM
Thanks for responding and I'm sorry I didnt give a disclaimer before my post (didn't really expect to get that detailed). I hope my post didn't start your day off on a bad note:( Anyway, I really appreciate your input and admire your strength.
[Edited on 10-9-2003 by Donna]
Posted 09 October 2003 - 12:23 PM
((((((Safe Gentle Hugs ))))))))