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#1 Guest_missruby_*

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 09:46 AM

Hi! My name is Ruby, and I'm new to this forum. I have been sexually abused as a child and raped several times in adulthood since then. I am currently 28 years old and just beginning to look at my abuse issues in therapy. I am in recovery for alcoholism, drug addiction, and anorexia. I have recently made the decision to end my codepedent relationship and be alone for the first time in 10 years - this is very scary. I'd like to find people for support who have been where I've been. I'm tired of all the self-hatred and dysfunction.

#2 Lindy

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 11:04 AM

(((Ruby)))

Hi and welcome to After Silence. I'm sorry for the reasons that brought you here, but I am glad you have found us.

Take gentle care,

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#3 dereliktdauter

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 01:08 PM

Hey Ruby!!

Welcome here. I'm sorry to hear about your struggles and what has happened to you, but I'm glad that you have found it here. I too am in recovery for drug addiction. Its a wonderful journey. Keep on it!! smile.gif

If you ever need anything, I'm here.

Take care of yourself!!

((((safe hugs)))))
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#4 Haullie

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 01:11 PM

Ruby,

I HAVE been there. And I know that time goes on. I'm 24 years old and I feel like there isn't much left inside of me. And then I meet others who are older than I by a few years and I see how they are expanding their futures and trying to put some belief inside of themselves and I think that is such a wonderful thing. It lets me know that the past is not my enemy it's only the oast and future healing can begin at any moment.

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#5 betty

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 01:29 PM

welcome ruby! smile.gif
i'm sorry for all the pain you have experienced.

everyone here is great :D

i'm here if you need to talk

bettyx

#6 Haullie

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 01:32 PM

I like your avatar Betty!

#7 betty

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 01:55 PM

thanx haullie tongue.gif

#8 aquapit

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 02:59 PM

(((Ruby)))Welcome to After Silence! I am sorry for all the pain you have been through. You are not alone. If there is anything I can do let me know!

Take precious care of yourself!

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#9 BalueMana

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Posted 12 April 2004 - 03:32 PM

Hi Ruby,
I'm glad you found this place - it seems to be a wonderful environment for learning to live through the past.

You were looking for people who can relate............ HI I'M BALUE smile.gif

I'm a 34 y.o. survivor of mental/physical and sexual abuse. I consider myself as healed as you get from these things.


I have been addicted to narcotics - and drank WAYYYYYY too much - Both are past. so I understand addiction and the fight to not be addicted. Although I'm not now nor have I ever been in rahab for them - So I might not be much help in that area. I do know a little about the process though.

I was in an codependent marriage for 13 years that was full of B*llshit followed by a long term codependent NIGHTMARE cohabitation after that.

I left this last relationship with a 3 month old son. It was my decision, I just got tired of all the dyfunction and said that is it - I will not raise my child like this-

I've been without a relationship for the past year - and I want it that way. From one codependent to the other - I am just not taking a chance on my radar till I'm sure I won't pick a person from a codependent place.


So, there are my areas of simularity.........Please consider me here for you anytime you need an ear.

Welcome and blessings,
Balue

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Posted 13 April 2004 - 02:03 PM

Welcome missruby. I'm sorry for what you went through and that you still suffer, but I think you made good decisions for yourself. I wish you lots of healing and joy. Take care.

((safe hugs))

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#11 phoenyx

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Posted 13 April 2004 - 03:15 PM

(((missruby))) Welcome to After Silence. I am glad you found us tho sad you had reasons to search us out. I understand your pain. I am a survivor of multiple assaults and I have also been in recovery from chem dependency for 18 years and alcohol for 6 yrs. I hope you find the comfort and support here as I have. Be kind to yourself as you heal.

#12 Haullie

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Posted 13 April 2004 - 04:00 PM

(((((((((((MissRuby))))))))))))))

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Posted 13 April 2004 - 05:42 PM

Welcome missruby, Sorry for all your pain that u went through. I hope u find some kind of comfort here with us.. :rolleyes:

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Posted 13 April 2004 - 05:42 PM

Welcome missruby, Sorry for all your pain that u went through. I hope u find some kind of comfort here with us.. :rolleyes:

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Posted 13 April 2004 - 11:42 PM

((((((missruby)))))
You sound a lot like me sweetie.I was raped as a child and adult as well. I have suffered through anorexia and am suffering through alcoholism now even though I am only 21.
You are not alone. Please keep posting. We are here to heal together smile.gif

Madonna