You shoudn't have to prentent to forgive anyone, forgiveness belongs to yourself and to no one else. Whom you decide to forgive and on what terms and where is your own right. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't forgie, I know a lot of survivors who feel better about forgiveing, but understand that it doesn't alays come with everyone and that is perfectly understandable, that is your own right and anyone who doesn't respect that is not worth your effort includeing anyone whom you are close with. They should be open to understanding you more, not in changeing your right to feel.
Haullie
When I was 8 I was sexually abused by my brother for 2yrs. It started with fondling, his fingers,then oral sex. After he went in for treatment for drugs and booze I told his shrink. The shrink to my parents I was lying,watching to many soaps. I held it in for 22yrs until 1/31/00; I confronted him and of course he denied it as usual. From then on I ve been into therapy and on meds. Recently my husband to me during a arguement that he doesnt want to hear about my abuse all the time-which means he dont care. He did apologize for that statement. He wants me to "Pretend to forgive my brother"...screw him, well thats my story 
