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#436 glamourdollxoxo

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Posted 17 January 2011 - 05:47 AM

She is scared
She is hurt
He touched her where she didnt want him to
She is afraid of him
He told her not to tell
She is sitting in her closet to protect herslef
her privates hurt when he touches her
she wants to die
she hates herself
she is bad

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#437 Destiny79

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Posted 18 January 2011 - 09:45 AM

QUOTE (~FOUND~ @ Jan 16 2011, 06:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mine is dead.


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#438 phoenixgirl

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Posted 18 January 2011 - 03:22 PM


I "found" my inner child for the first time yesterday. She has been there all along, but I have not recognised her. I thought she was a defective part of the "big" me.

What do I want to say to her?

Yesterday she went somewhere really scary. I am so proud of her for being so brave. She is a good girl. She let other people into the scaries...

#439 glamourdollxoxo

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Posted 19 January 2011 - 10:38 AM

My little Lizzie (idk why she calls herself that she just does) came out last night and trusted me enough to draw for me to tell me what was making her scared. She wrote me a letter first (i used my left hand and crayons to really let it flow and come out) and then drew a picture with my left hand as well. They are posted in the healing by art section if anyone is interested. I am so proud of her for coming out even though she was more scared than I was.

#440 Andrea1501

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Posted 30 January 2011 - 11:02 AM

dear little me - I love you

#441 WingedDragon

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Posted 30 January 2011 - 11:32 AM

QUOTE (Destiny79 @ Jan 18 2011, 09:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
QUOTE (~FOUND~ @ Jan 16 2011, 06:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Mine is dead.


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Destiny, are you sure she is gone, dead? She may just be buried so deeply within you that you cannot see or find her. I hope you keep searching. I tried this new things that someone else spoke of , in a different context, about feeling her inner child.
I bought a few very youthful coloring books, like the ones we would give to a 2-5 year old. I sat and started to color with my "left" and, rather than my right. I am right handed.
It was a very interesting experience and I plan to so this more. I felt young and found myself concentrating to stay in the lines and even biting my bottom lip in working to do it well. I never, or rarely, sign my full first name anymore. If it's a personal note, I drop the y at the end.
When I was finished with the first page I very much wanted to sign my name with the same sort of thing I did when I was young and safe, at my Grandmother's house.
I signed the pages I colored
By Tammy
the last one, I even put a smiley face
maybe you could give this a try, it gave me a good feeling, after some time, maybe you would feel her within you or you would simply know she was not really dead?
Just an idea
hugs and hugs and healing sent your way
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#442 angel30

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Posted 02 February 2011 - 12:10 PM

my little Ninnie would like to say hello. She would also like some hugs plz, she has been crying today.

#443 WingedDragon

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Posted 02 February 2011 - 01:11 PM

QUOTE (angel30 @ Feb 2 2011, 12:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
my little Ninnie would like to say hello. She would also like some hugs plz, she has been crying today.



Hello Lil One
I am Dragon, the good kind. I have silver sparkles in my wings and the tips shine like diamonds. I am sorry you are sad today. I know that Angel will take very good care of you. I'll hug her and she can hug you and hen maybe I can hug you too. Would that be alright Ninnie?
I want you to know that your are safe and there is nothing to hurt you today. It is a safe day. You are safe Ninnie.
Can you hug Angel? She needs a big hug, just like you.
You are such a brave little girl and it's okay to peek out and see us, to see me and to see Angel. She would like to see you and to help you feel loved and safe. You can trust Angel, Ninnie, truly, you can.
I am sending lots and lots of safe and gentle Mother hugs for you and for Angel. If you wanna crawl into Angel's lap for a while, she will let you. She loves your more than cake and ice cream!
Hugs sweetheart
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#444 WingedDragon

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Posted 02 February 2011 - 01:11 PM

QUOTE (angel30 @ Feb 2 2011, 12:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
my little Ninnie would like to say hello. She would also like some hugs plz, she has been crying today.



Hello Lil One
I am Dragon, the good kind. I have silver sparkles in my wings and the tips shine like diamonds. I am sorry you are sad today. I know that Angel will take very good care of you. I'll hug her and she can hug you and hen maybe I can hug you too. Would that be alright Ninnie?
I want you to know that your are safe and there is nothing to hurt you today. It is a safe day. You are safe Ninnie.
Can you hug Angel? She needs a big hug, just like you.
You are such a brave little girl and it's okay to peek out and see us, to see me and to see Angel. She would like to see you and to help you feel loved and safe. You can trust Angel, Ninnie, truly, you can.
I am sending lots and lots of safe and gentle Mother hugs for you and for Angel. If you wanna crawl into Angel's lap for a while, she will let you. She loves your more than cake and ice cream!
Hugs sweetheart
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#445 angel30

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Posted 02 February 2011 - 08:49 PM

Thanks dragon

Your words to me and Ninnie are very kind. She is feeling very warm and protected by me tonight. I like to wrap the duvet around us.

Ninnie feels quite snappy right now. She tells me "I AM ALONE" in a very sharp loud voice. When she heard that she wasn't i stopped crying smile.gif

I did some left handed painting earlier on my bedroom wall ( am decorating). Straight away i heard " i am no good at this, i am rubbish". I reassured her it just takes practice and she will do fine.

Cuddles are very much appreciated smile.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif

#446 WingedDragon

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 11:30 AM

QUOTE (angel30 @ Feb 2 2011, 08:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks dragon

Your words to me and Ninnie are very kind. She is feeling very warm and protected by me tonight. I like to wrap the duvet around us.

Ninnie feels quite snappy right now. She tells me "I AM ALONE" in a very sharp loud voice. When she heard that she wasn't i stopped crying smile.gif

I did some left handed painting earlier on my bedroom wall ( am decorating). Straight away i heard " i am no good at this, i am rubbish". I reassured her it just takes practice and she will do fine.

Cuddles are very much appreciated smile.gif hug.gif hug.gif hug.gif



I'll admit that I am not a big fan of country music. Some of it I like and most not. I do like John Denver, rip. and remember singing his songs and playing guitar with my sister Tina.
I had to put a roast in the slow cooker so that it would not go to waste and so I was cooking on the stove and all that stuff. I have a small clock alarm and cd player in the kitchen and the cd was a hits cd by John D.
I was singing, as usual and decided to sing to my Inner Child. She likes music, even if she doesn't come out much to sing it. There are songs that can be seen as romantic and if you take the romance out of them and just listen to the promise of love, they can fit differently. So, I sang to my Inner Child. It was okay, my teenage son's had no idea I was doing anything different than what I always do, singing when music plays.
She liked it, and I felt okay doing it. I just thought that maybe it could be and idea for someone else to try. Music is such a basic thing and not really in need of language, so maybe it would breach the gap so many of us feel between the people we are now and the child hiding inside.
Hope it helps, or doesn't hurt.
hugs and hugs and blessed be
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#447 jujujolly

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 12:12 PM

Juju,
I know it has been awhile since I have even acknowledged you. In fact it has been a year and half since I last posted on this forum or even visited the site. The memories were just to much to bear. *i know you have been calling out to me and I have been ignoring you, till finally you made your presence known and I could not ignore you any longer. You are wanting to work on the issues again. For that I am thankful. I make a conscious effort to block you when all you want is to be heard and make me whole again. Lil juju, I promise this time to make a great effort to unlock the horrible memories that cause me so much suffering and pain. I promise not to ignore you. I will try my best to keep these promises.
I have found another EMDR specialist, In fact I go see her next week. This dissocative amnesia has been hard on us, especially when I quit therapy suddenly cause it was all to much to bear.
I only hope that you will see I am truely trying and forgive me once again. Lil juju, you have been thru so much and only scratched the surface. You have been brave for showing me the past memories, but I believe you showed me too much at one time and it left me scared, confused, and alone. My support network was not so great at the time.
I also plan to see my pdoc about a meds adjustment or change. This can frighteing. Hopefully some relief is in sight. This wild rollercoaster ride of bipolar depression and hypomania is driving me insane.
I am ready and willing again to admit I need help.
Take care lil juju,
Love, Julie

#448 briarrosa

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 12:53 PM

dear little me,
thanks for being here with me through so much. and thank you for being as strong as you could be during this past month. it has been a tough transition and yet we have made it through together. even though we broke one thing, it is not the end of the world. it is fixable. i am proud of both of us for getting through a very tough time together and for not losing our goals in the process. i think we have a bright future ahead of us and i am hoping we can both enjoy our new life together. let's have some fun today!! throb.gif i love you so much little one and i am so grateful you are in my life. you make it all worthwhile. throb.gif throb.gif throb.gif throb.gif
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#449 briarrosa

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Posted 04 February 2011 - 06:49 PM

does anyone else ever get the feeling that it is not the inner child who is suffering, but the adult self? in some ways, for me, my inner child is doing great, it is the adult who needs more compassion from the child. kind of a weird thought, but one that is making sense right now for me.

so, that being said, my message to my inner child is this. Please be gentle with me, your adult self. I have a lot of responsibilities on my plate every day and I really need support, willingness, cooperation and help with keeping it all together. I will help you if you help me. together we will find a good path, but it cannot just be all about you all the time. sometimes my adult needs also have to get attention. there must be a sense of acceptance from you about this or we will never get anywhere constructive together. please be kind and gentle with me. It is very important that we are on the same page together.

#450 Elsa21

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Posted 26 April 2011 - 07:57 AM

Little Alex wants to come out and play but she is very scared too ...might get told to be grown up by husband he don't seems to understand the whole inner child thing.