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Loving Our Bodies, Loving Ourselves
Posted 25 April 2009 - 11:30 PM
Posted 25 April 2009 - 11:32 PM
"Wear a pair of cool boots, it will make you feel like you can handle anything, or atleast kick it really hard!"
Posted 06 May 2009 - 05:41 PM
1. I got my eyebrows and moustache waxed for the first time in my life, and I'm over 40! Not having a hairy moustache makes me feel SOOOOOO much better when I look in the mirror.
2. I highlighted my hair and BOUGHT A CURLING IRON.............which was a huge deal for me to do, although I know it may not seem like much to others.
3. Most importantly...........every night before I go to bed I think of ONE THING that I did RIGHT TODAY and tell myself that I did a GOOD JOB with at least ONE THING!!
I'm also trying to eat healthier..........quality, nutritious food and trying to stay healthy physically instead of always torturing my body with my ED.
THANKS for this thread!
Posted 25 May 2009 - 12:40 PM
Posted 26 July 2009 - 02:59 PM
here are some tips i can offer:
1)Recite a self affirmation such as “I am worth fighting for” twice every day.
2)Celebrate dedication and effort over result by praising yourself for at least one thing each day. After all, life isn't a destination- its a journey! so dont wait until you hit your goals to reward yourself. cheer yourself on every step of the way!
3)do things that are challenging but possible to make you feel in control and accomplished (ideas: 30 minutes areobic exercise, volunteering at a soup kitchen for an hour every two weeks, learnig something new)
4)Write a love letter to yourself and read it when you are feeling down. Find the dialectic of your self-hate.
5)Sincerely accept compliments
6)Be mindful of your limits. Accept that you are human and can control only myself.
7)Allow mistakes to be viewed as learning opportunities that inspire change.
8) do a lovingkindness or any other tpye of meditation practice. i will post one below that is my favorite, you can also find more mindfulness practices on google
Take a comfortable position. BRing your focus mindfully to your breath or body for a few breaths. Open and soften as much as feels safe to you as you allow yourself to connect with your natural inner feelings of kindness and compassion for others.
now shift your atention to yourself. it could be a snese of your whole self or some part that needs care and attention, such as a physical injury or the site of an illness or a feeling of emotional pain.
use a phrase like "may i be safe and protected" or "may i be happy" or "may i be healthy and well" or "may i live with ease" or make up one of your own. let the phrase you pick be something anyone would want (safety, ease, joy, and so on). Pick one that works for you. it can be a single phrase. then but all your heart into it each time you speak to yourself. let kindness and compassion come through you.
practice by repeating your phrase to yourself silently as if singing a lullaby to a baby. practice for as long as you like. it may help to just practice for a few minutes at a time at first and later build up to a longer practice.
Edited by crescendo.of.whisprs, 26 July 2009 - 03:07 PM.
Posted 23 December 2009 - 04:32 PM
Posted 23 December 2009 - 07:58 PM
I feel much better now in my new relationship.
Posted 24 December 2009 - 06:37 AM
I will say that I do like the way my eyes sparkle.
I have a heart full of love an compassion.
Posted 26 December 2009 - 10:32 PM
Posted 26 December 2009 - 11:23 PM
~i actually try NOT to look at myself naked. I have weighed over 250lbs, and even with some weight loss, it aint pretty. neither are scars. that is reality. i can accept it, but i dont have to look at it.
~swimming - always leaves me feeling good. any water actually - shower, tub, hot tub. naked always feels better. love to skinny-dip (or more like chunky-dunk!)
~scent, especially sandlewood. use lotion or perfume oil, always feels nice
~clothes that fit well, especially black.
~boots with a heal, like motorbike boots. like to feel like i could kick some ass.
~A well fitting bra
~rest- the more tired i am the worse i seem to feel about me.
Posted 24 February 2010 - 07:50 PM
Posted 13 November 2010 - 12:50 PM
I've grown to love them though as my cats ADORE them. They love sitting on them, padding on them like a cushion and such! It's nice to see someone appreciate a bit of myself I never liked
Posted 14 November 2010 - 07:19 PM
I can do martial arts really well.
I have good posture and a nicely shaped figure.