Jump to content

Welcome to After Silence - A message board and chat room for rape, sexual assault, and sexual abuse survivors.

Welcome to After Silence, a message board and chat room designed to help survivors communicate in the recovery of rape, sexual abuse, sexual assault, and all types of sexual violence.

After Silence has over 30 different forums, ranging from topics created to discuss specific areas of healing and recovery from rape and sexual violence, as well as forums open to general discussions and lighter topics. Because we value the privacy of our members, most of our forums are private, which means that ONLY REGISTERED members have access to them. Please register for a free account to gain full access to the After Silence Online Support Group.

If you have any problems with the registration process or your account login, please contact us at aftersilence.moderators@gmail.com
Guest Message by DevFuse



  • Please log in to reply
13 replies to this topic

#1 marz

  • Member
  • 193 posts

Posted 18 October 2014 - 09:49 PM

Hi everyone,


I really liked the look of this site when I was going through quite some trauma a couple of months ago... I did not have a good start with this site as it took around 5-6 weeks to be validated. I guess something went wrong, but I did write several emails with no response... 


Anyhow, I'm here now & just wanted to say hello. Nearly a couple of months ago my abuser (my father) was convicted & sentenced for crimes against others which brought all my old trauma back to the forefront for me (he was also convicted & jailed for crimes against me & my brother too many years ago). 


Well, I won't say much more, just looking forward to communicating more with others who've been through similar experiences.




#2 lily23


    What Satan intended for evil, God can turn into something good.

  • Member
  • 925 posts

Posted 18 October 2014 - 11:19 PM

hey Marz,

I am sooooo sorry it took so long for you to be validated. I really hope that you have a better experience with this site in the near future. 

I am sorry that your father's conviction has brought up old trauma for you. I hope this site offers you the support and encouragement you need and deserve.

Welcome to AS!

#3 reglois



  • Member
  • 8,812 posts

Posted 19 October 2014 - 03:13 AM

:aswelcomesu: :youcanheal: :notalone: :bighug:  glad the sperm donor is where he belongs but sorry you have to suffer anew

#4 fallenstar

  • Section Moderator
  • 4,522 posts

Posted 19 October 2014 - 07:40 AM

Hi marz and welcome to AS. I'm sorry you are re-traumatized but hope you find comfort and peace here to help you through it. 

Safe hugs to you if okay.  :hug:

#5 marz

  • Member
  • 193 posts

Posted 19 October 2014 - 11:53 AM

Many thanks lily23, reglois and fallenstar for your warm welcome & kind words... the court case brought up a lot of stuff for me, but I'm taking this as an opportunity to heal & develop more. Looking forward to exploring the site & communicating more with you all - thanks, marz

#6 sunshinee

  • Contributing Member
  • 5,303 posts

Posted 19 October 2014 - 12:23 PM

Hi Marz,


Welcome to Aftersilence. I'm so sorry that it took so long to get validated! Things have been pretty backed up here, and we are working towards making it better! 


I hope that you will find the support here, and I look forward to seeing you around the boards. I'm sorry for the reason you had to come here, but at the same time glad that you found us :) Looking forward to getting to know you!


If you have any questions please feel free to send me a message, as my job is to help new members to navigate their way around the boards, and help you feel at home much as possible!



Newbie Support Team

#7 marz

  • Member
  • 193 posts

Posted 19 October 2014 - 03:23 PM

Thanks Mandy,


I understand that things can get backed up & sorry I wasn't patient enough. I thought at the time that maybe you guys didn't want me on this site for some unknown reason which of course was silly...


I will certainly message you if I have questions.


Thanks again,


#8 NorskyCourtney


    With Love

  • Section Moderator
  • 3,544 posts

Posted 20 October 2014 - 10:51 AM

Welcome here, marz. It's good to meet you on here :) I'm very sorry for how the court case has brought the trauma to the forefront for you. I know there are many survivors (myself included) who have had specific triggers years after the fact that brought everything back to the forefront. It can be such a damn frustrating journey at times, but I've been on it for awhile now, and it's been soooo worth it. You're among friends here on AS, and I hope you find the support and comfort you're seeking. Looking forward to getting to know you on here.


- Courtney

#9 marz

  • Member
  • 193 posts

Posted 20 October 2014 - 10:16 PM

Thanks for your message Courtney. I guess I've been on the journey for quite a while too & was quite surprised when the recent case brought up so many new emotions... but I guess it's a good thing as it makes me that much more aware and able to move forward. And I'm in therapy which really helps with these feelings too. I've found this site very warm & welcoming & look forward to getting to know you & other people here more too :hi: marz  

#10 silent no more

silent no more
  • Section Moderator
  • 8,435 posts

Posted 20 October 2014 - 10:34 PM

Welcome to AS Marz!! Like everyone else said, things have been backed up. But I am glad you finally were able to get on the board. I hope that you find it as supportive and caring, as I have. There are some very wonderful and supportive people here. Feel free to post whenever and there is also a chat room (you have to have ten posts to access), that many like to use. The recent case, makes sense why you would be so triggered. This stuff likes to rear its ugly head, when we least need it to. Please  take gentle care of you! Again Welcome to AS!!



#11 marz

  • Member
  • 193 posts

Posted 21 October 2014 - 10:19 PM

Thanks for your welcoming message SNM - yes, I'm very happy to now be on the board. It really does seem a supportive and caring community here and already I've had much food for thought from others' posts as well as replies to my own posts. Thanks again - marz

#12 silent no more

silent no more
  • Section Moderator
  • 8,435 posts

Posted 21 October 2014 - 11:27 PM

You are welcome. If you need any help, let me know! (((((((((((((Marz)))))))))))))))))



#13 Purplehaze

  • Member
  • 11 posts

Posted 05 November 2014 - 09:45 AM

Wow Marz! I too have had to wait quite some time to get on, but glad I'm here now. I look forward to meeting you on our journey here. Take care! Hang in there!

#14 marz

  • Member
  • 193 posts

Posted 08 November 2014 - 09:39 AM

Thanks for your welcoming post Purplehaze... yes, it seems there is a glitch in the new membership system... but all's good now we're on here! Take care yourself too & hope you find the site helpful and supportive like I do  :hi: