Hi all. I'm really glad that I found this website; thank you for your contributions that allow a resource like this to exist.
From 2005 to 2009, I was in a romantic relationship that could probably be described as emotionally abusive. Among other things, this included having sex that I did not willingly consent to. I resisted thinking of myself as a sexual assault survivor for a long time, partly because it's the kind of story that people would doubt (in the context of a romantic relationship) and partly due to shame (I have a reputation in my social circle of being a die-hard feminist, I moved hundreds of miles away from home to live with him, he ultimately left me). I never told a lot of my close friends from the period in my life where he and I were together, even people I would consider my best friends.
I've come a long way in the past 5 years. I developed my identity outside of what other people wanted from me, got my Masters degree, moved to a fantastic city, and fell in love with a guy who respects me and cares for me. Unfortunately, being in a committed relationship for the first time since all that past nastiness has been one of the most difficult parts of the healing process for me. I have a great therapist who is guiding me through a dialectical behavior therapy workbook, and my partner is committed to helping me in any way he can, but I feel the need for support from people who have survived similar ordeals.
I really look forward to getting to know you folks and being part of a mutually supportive and safe conversation.