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#1 Raivenkc

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Posted 20 October 2013 - 11:50 AM

Hello. I am new here. Abused for 11 years as a child. Date raped once attempted twice. I thought I had everything dealt with. I am 44 now and things have been coming back. I'm tired of being a victim. I thought I was a survivor, but now I don't know.

#2 reglois



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Posted 20 October 2013 - 01:27 PM

:sor: you have to be here, it is a good place to start the healing process :notalone:  :bighug:  if OK

#3 lexip

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Posted 20 October 2013 - 02:12 PM

I'm sorry for what brought you here, I hope you find lots of support and understanding here!!! Welcome to AS. :flowers:  :bighug:



#4 Ladyinlaw

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Posted 20 October 2013 - 10:42 PM

It takes a big step to talk!! Good for you for taking that step.  Sorry you are here.

#5 angelic


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Posted 21 October 2013 - 05:07 PM

Hello Raivenkc,

 I'd like to welcome you to AfterSilence, my name is Paula, I am one of the newbie support team here. If you need any help with anything on the site, please contact me

take care, Paula

#6 Eliz67


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Posted 23 October 2013 - 10:44 AM

I am 45 and thought I had sufficiently dealt with this stuff too.  I am now having it re-surface in ways that are just so intrusive to my day-to-day stuff.  Glad to hear I am not the only one circling back on a topic that I have failed to recognize impacted how I have lived numbed out, disconnected, and going through the motions.  I totally get your victim, survivor, victim cycle.

#7 BreatheIn BreatheOut

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Posted 23 October 2013 - 11:17 AM

I'm in my 50's and have had it all come back a few years ago after thinking I had successfully dealt with it in my 20's.
I find that the level of healing this go round is much deeper than before. I'm not sure I could have gone there then.
I think it's a spiraling kind of process. We do what we can, and rest. Later if we are able, we do more.
I hear from my T that it's very common for CSA issues to resurface later in life, especially in the 40's.
Guess I was a little late. : )


#8 barbwire

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Posted 29 October 2013 - 11:49 AM

I'm 63, had a reaction from a TV program a couple of weeks ago, I was stunned as I thought I'd dealt with it all, guess I really haven't.   I'm new  here too trying to finally deal with it all.

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Posted 08 March 2014 - 09:28 PM


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