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Posted 08 October 2013 - 08:26 AM
Posted 09 October 2013 - 09:17 PM
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echnically it's not a new relationship because we have been dating a year but it's the only one I've had since I was raped by my ex boyfriend. I find that when I'm with my new boyfriend I'm happy and that I do not tend to think about what happened to me and it's great. But when he leaves it all comes rushing back and I wonder if I really do love him like I think I do or if I'm just using him to cope. He is the only person in the world that knows about what happened to me apart from you lot, he was my best friend and still is and I'd never want to lose him. To sum everything up I'm just confused about what to do, and how I feel.
Judith; It can be both. The key is to work on nonsexual touch first. That helps women tremendously with time in the area of sex.
It is ok to feel confused -the key is to maybe write down what your seeking so on.
The key is to keep communication lines open and keep him informed about what is happening to you. Reassure him that it is not about him at all.
The key is to find things in common to that is nonsexual.
You can always use email to talk about things if in person it becomes challenge