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[a1in3]

I am new here. My children were recently assaulted and it brought back some painful memories that I had previously worked through and also some new memories from my own childhood. I previously had no memory of my childhood assault, but now I am having flashbacks. I am at a loss as to how to deal with this. I am starting to see a counselor, but I am afraid to talk about this. I cannot turn to my family for any help because they refused to believe my children (it was another family member). If anyone has any experience I would like to know what steps you took to get better. This is severely impacting my life. My children went through counseling and seem to be doing fine. But I know they need and deserve a whole mother and I don't know how to get there. Thank you

[sunshinee]

Hi A1in3,

Welcome to Aftersilence

I'm sorry for the reason you have had to come here, but I'm glad you found us. I do not have children of my own, but I too was assaulted by a family member. It was years ago, but I still deal with my past time to time. I think you are taking great steps, by attending counselling and getting help. I hope you can find some support around here too. I here you, there were members of my family refusing to believe me when I came out and told them. It's not easy... but you know they have you.

You know if you are not ready to talk about it- that's okay. There is no rush... take your time. Feel free to browse through forums here as well, and it may help you as well.

Mandy

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[patriciag]

Hi a1in3

I am sorry for what brought you here, I am very sorry to what to your children, as a mother it is hard when I children are in pain. I had to ask my own girls if they were abused by abuser as was around them when they were children. I remember holding my breath until they said no. You are not alone here, take your time reading the broads.

Patricia