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[JJA1000]

Just wanted to start I've been suffering for so long with anger and shame. It's easy to say it's not my fault but I don't live it. What can I do? I finally told someone what happened to me when I was 9 for the first time today. Not sure how she's processing it then I joined this to find some help. I've been alone with this for so long. I just want to overcome my pain and hope I can find help

[angelic]

hello JJA1000

welcome to After Silence, my name is Paula and I am one of the newbie support team here, I hope you are finding your way around the board okay, if you need any assistance please let me or one of the other team members know and we will do our best to help

take care, Paula

[reglois]

if OK

[moonpeye]

Welcome, you are not alone it is good to tell people your story, a lot of people can relate. A lot of us have been ashamed for a long time too.. Hoping you find resolution!!

[MeBeMary]

Welcome JJA,

You will find AS filled with kind and supportive people. I had been hiding what happened to me at 15 for a very long time, and just found this place a few weeks ago. It's not easy carrying the pain alone, is it? You don't have to anymore. I understand telling someone for the first time, too. I did so over the weekend. She is still processing it, too, but I trust her, and I hope you trust your friend, too. Good luck on your journey of healing. It is possible.

Mary

Edited February 19, 2015 by MeBeMary

[nycgirl]

Hi JJA1000,

Welcome to After Silence.

I am sorry to read that you have been suffering with anger and shame.

I want to thank you for reaching out for support here at AS.

You are not alone, and we are a very friendly, understanding and supportive group.

We have all experienced CSA or SA, and we understand how you feel.

With time, you will overcome your pain.

Please feel free to post any messages that you have any questions about that we may be able to assist you with.

You CAN and WILL Heal and Recover.

You have already started the hardest part in your recovery by talking about your experience with your friend.

Remember, it WAS NOT your fault.

[JJA1000]

She's my best friend. I love so much I married her. I start with a therapist this coming week. So it begins. Thanks to all of you. I'll update on here as much as I can. Thanks again.

[ActivistAlly]

Just wanted to start I've been suffering for so long with anger and shame. It's easy to say it's not my fault but I don't live it. What can I do? I finally told someone what happened to me when I was 9 for the first time today. Not sure how she's processing it then I joined this to find some help. I've been alone with this for so long. I just want to overcome my pain and hope I can find help

Welcome JJA,

I'm sorry that what happened to you happened but I can say with certainty that it was not your fault. I hope you can find help too.

With support,

Activist Ally