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Hello:

This is the first time that I have ever spoke of my experience. I have maintained absolute silence for over 40 years. The last year has been spent following the rape and abuse cases that are public mews. Now the nightmares, anxiety, and unfounded fears have returned. I thought they were gone, but I was wrong.

You see, I was raped and beaten when I was 10 years old, My Mother was an alcoholic/addict who during my childhood blamed me for the unhappiness of her life. This is the first time that I have mustered the courage to speak. I don't know if I belong here because I am a Male. If not, please tell me and I will leave.

Thanks

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(((CBSeeker)))

Welcome to AS, and yes, of course you are welcome here. We do have a number of male members who post from time to time. Unfortunately abuse and rape are not gender specific.

My mother is also an alcoholic, and she was my abuser, so I can understand some of where you are coming from. Rest assured you have come to a very warm and supportive place.

The first step is always the hardest. I respect what you have done so much. Take care, and post when you are ready.

:hug::hug::hug:

Ruthie

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CBSEEKER

:hug: Welcome here. You have taken a huge step to speak up, and everyone here knows how much courage it has taken you.

I just had a counselling session this afternoon, where I was in tears about my own experience, and saying "you'd think I'd be over it by now, it was 30 years ago", and my counsellor pointed out that emotions have no time scale, and had me say out loud several times "My pain is real"

Your pain is real just as mine is, and I believe that my pain has surfaced now because it's taken this long for me to be strong enough to face it and deal with it. It doesn't stop it hurting, but I hold on to the belief that I am in the process of reclaiming myself.

Jyo

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:greet: Welcome :greet:

As Ruthie said, we have many wonderful male members here. In fact one of them, Nickeaster, has a wonderful website for male survivors: http://malesurvivors.htmlplanet.com/

Welcome again to AS. I am sorry for your experiences, but I hope you find some comfort here.

Nicole

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welcome to after silence, of course you're welcome here. well done for being brave enough to post here. :hug: :hug: :hug:

~charlene~

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Welcomet to after Silence Cbseeker...I was so scared when I first came here and I had never spoken about what had happened to me but everyone here is so supportive and I just felt so comfortable here because I felt for the first time I wasn't alone. I hope this board helps you as much as it has helped me..Luv Jess :hug::hug:

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Welcome :hug: :hug: :hug:

:wub: Alyssa :wub:

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you are welcome here..........michelle

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Welcome to AS, I hope that being here can help on your healing journey ... :hug:

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