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Molested At 11, Raped At 13, Raped At 25, Domestic Violence Survivor...and More


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What a mess life can dish our way! Here's a brief summary of my suvivor's journey!

I was molested by my brother at age 11.

Raped by a church counselor at 13.

Victim of verbal abuse by my first husband at 20.

Severely beaten by a boyfriend at 23.

Raped by a CONVICTED!!!!! perp at 25.

Lifetime issues dealing with an absentee father.

I've had a lot of therapy in the past three years dealing with all this mess and the negative windfall of personal choices and self-destructive behaviors that resulted from low self-esteem and lack of self-worth. I'm on the backside of healing and now mentor young girls in a local juvenile detention center who have experienced some of the same trauma's in the their lives.

My motto has become one of this: It is my hope that by sharing my survivor's journey, my pain will no longer be in vain.

So glad to be here....

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I am sorry to hear the reasons that bring you to After Silence. But I am so glad to hear that you have been working hard in therapy to deal with the issues that this stuff brings us. And proud of you, for mentoring young girls who have had to deal with these same types of issues! Welcome to After Silence!! I hope you find it as supportive and caring, as I have!!

~SNM~

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Thanks Sam and Silent - I'm glad to be here.

Love that there is a place where people can voice with no admonition, judgement, or fear lack of understanding, empathy and compassion.

While life's journey has been less than desirable at times, I'm glad for the experiences as I'm able to use them to help others. At the end of the day, if I covet what I learn, then I see no point in learning it in the first place.

Reach one. Touch one.

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Thanks for your words of encouragement. I hope and pray my life experience and healing will reach those who need to hear it, see it, feel it, believe in it, and strive to achieve it as well.

I am not defined by what has happend to me; rather, I am defined by how I process it, what I learn from it, how I combat it, and my willingness to walk in vulnerability by sharing it in order to help others.

It's not enough to just survive, we have to recover!

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I so LOVE your attitude!!! You are truly an inspiration to us all!!! I am gaining strength eachand everyday. I have broken the silence more times than I can count now. One day at a time. I am working towards healing and recovery. Thank you for being such a positive and inspirational memeber of this community!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((Elle)))))))))))))))))))))))))

-twelve

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Love your attitude. Still working at finding my way, you are so positive

Thank you

Gemini12

Thank you for being an inspiration. I am so sorry for all you have been through. You are a very strong woman.

Marcie

Thank you ladies - I'm honored to be used by God to inspire others. While the road is long and difficult, the incredible view you will partake in of not only yourself, but of other people in your life, will be the most majestic of all.

When you get healthy, you begin to see how sick everyone around you really is. Truth be told, my friends and family probably call me, Elle "You need therapy" White. Now that I'm healthy emotionally, have good boundaries, secure in who I am, and I see the incredible benefit from diving down into life's wounds and standing firm in the commitment of working through them, no matter the cost, I'm constantly telling people "You Need Therapy." LOL!

One of the greatest lessons I've learned is to stop "reacting" based on emotion; rather I now "respond" based on logic and reason. Emotion used to run and ruin my life. I was reactionary to everything, and lived in a constant state of seeing myself as a victim.

While I will always be "classified" as a victim because of the assaults levied against me, I choose to no longer participate in the victim mentality. Trust me, it's easier said than done...but the good new is, IT CAN BE DONE if you're wiling to commit and do the work.

Be encouraged! Be strong! Be empowered! Break the chains and reclaim your life!

So long as you live with a victim mentality, you will remain a victim in your heart.

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Interesting. I see a lot of logic to what you are saying. And I guess hiding and trying to push the feelings away is not helping me. And yes I do need therapy and continue to need it. But that is ok.LOL. I am glad I found this place. I am also so glad to have found your post.

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Hi Elle,

I really admire your strength and the courage you've shown in coming forward and talking about what you went through.

I wish you all the best in your road to recovery :).

-Ollie

Thank you Ollie. Life is quite a journey, isn't it? I wish it were all sunshine and roses, but even the sun burns and roses have thorns.

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  • 9 months later...

Hi there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

Found

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