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I am a survivor of rape by several at one time, this happened to me over thirty five years ago, when I was only twentytwo years old, or maybe twentythree, not sure now...the dates fade but the act just doesn't ever go away, I wish it would. I went to tell the cops, a friend who was an x cop and others, but nothing happened. So, over the years I had to learn to deal with it myself. I eventually remarried, and I have a son. He is now thirtyfive and a pure joy, but we can't talk about this, he gets too angry at the men who did it to me and I need to hear from others, how the cope and how they have learned to deal with this. Basically I still need to talk about it and try to understand.

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Hi there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

Thank you for sharing.

Your bravery speaks volumes.

I'm here for ya anytime.

Love,

Found

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Hi needtobeheard, welcome to AS :flowers:

I can really understand that need to be able to talk about this, such a traumatic experience needs to be talked about really doesn't it, and so often people can't hear what we have to say, often especially if they are close to us

I think you will be able to find people here who can hear what you have to say and can share their experiences and coping tips too

I hope you will have a little look around the forums and start reading / posting / replying as and when it feels right for you

All the very best luv and hope to see you around :flowers:

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I hope you are finding your way around the boards ok.

Found

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Hi there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

Thank you for sharing.

Your bravery speaks volumes.

I'm here for ya anytime.

Love,

Found

Hi Found;

Thank you for your kindness, it happened to me a long time ago..I am still suffering mental problems at times I hate that no one helped me or even 'heard' me. (I didn't know I wasn't supposed to put details in the welcome area..sorry about that. ) I just found this website and thought "at last" maybe

I can talk to others who have indured the same horror that I suffered and together we can over come the hate, confusion and feelings that it was somehow my own fault.. which by the way I have pretty much over come that one about it being my fault...if you feel like it tell me your story..if not

thats ok, I will understand.

again, thank you so much for listening, : :flowers:

needtobeheard

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Hi needtobeheard, welcome to AS :flowers:

I can really understand that need to be able to talk about this, such a traumatic experience needs to be talked about really doesn't it, and so often people can't hear what we have to say, often especially if they are close to us

I think you will be able to find people here who can hear what you have to say and can share their experiences and coping tips too

I hope you will have a little look around the forums and start reading / posting / replying as and when it feels right for you

All the very best luv and hope to see you around :flowers:

Thanks to all of you who are so kind to reply...its nice for people to

hear..

needtobeheard

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:hug: :hug: :hug:

Hi there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

Thank you for sharing.

Your bravery speaks volumes.

I'm here for ya anytime.

Love,

Found

Hi Found;

Thank you for your kindness, it happened to me a long time ago..I am still suffering mental problems at times I hate that no one helped me or even 'heard' me. (I didn't know I wasn't supposed to put details in the welcome area..sorry about that. ) I just found this website and thought "at last" maybe

I can talk to others who have indured the same horror that I suffered and together we can over come the hate, confusion and feelings that it was somehow my own fault.. which by the way I have pretty much over come that one about it being my fault...if you feel like it tell me your story..if not

thats ok, I will understand.

again, thank you so much for listening, : :flowers:

needtobeheard

You are so very welcome.

I will message you my story when I get a chance.

I too have overcome the fault issue.

But still lots of other issues.

Found

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I believe healing is possible, but we carry the scars forever. It changes us. My abuse happened almost 20 yrs ago. I thought the pain would slowly go away on its own. That I would just "get over it." Now I know better.If you haven't been through counceling I think it is a good place to start. I'm glad you found this site. Sharing your burden does lighten the load a bit. Having someone to talk to who you know understands helps too. Hang in there!

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I believe healing is possible, but we carry the scars forever. It changes us. My abuse happened almost 20 yrs ago. I thought the pain would slowly go away on its own. That I would just "get over it." Now I know better.If you haven't been through counceling I think it is a good place to start. I'm glad you found this site. Sharing your burden does lighten the load a bit. Having someone to talk to who you know understands helps too. Hang in there!

Hi Hope1017

I have shared the facts with only the closest to me...it has helped some, but I am not sure where to get counseling for this.. I am not even sure of all the problems it may have caused me over the years, but I know I have serious problems trusting anyone but my son, any ideas or knowledge you have regarding counseling will sure help if not thats ok, Thank you for hearing....needtobeheard

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