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[stargazingmommy]

23 yrs ago I was raped by my cousin. I was 13. Over the years I had thought I had dealt with it and things were ok. He was arrested and convicted after molesting foster kids in his parents home, never arrested or tried on mine. It was 3 yrs after it happened that my parents found out.

I was ok until recently. In August he received a kidney transplant. I guess I've lived knowing he would be dying, and now that its not happening the anger and hurt is all here again.

My mom told me last week I need to just get over it. I wish I could. I haven't talked to mom since.

Christmas, first time in 10 yrs my siblings will all be in one location with their spouses and kids. I won't be going though.

I found out tonight my grandpa is in the hospital. via facebook. She wouldn't even call and tell me. all because I resent the support she has offered him, I resent the I hope you feel better fast and if you need anything let me know. She KNOWs what he did. She knows who he is. She won't talk to me about it, just tells me to get over it.

how can she support him and now her own daughter?

[Samii]

It is sad that person like that get transplant when other person die because they can not get one.

I am sorry. I do not have much other thing to say. Just wish you did not have this difficult time in life.

[whimsical1]

welcome to after-silence.

[blondi]

[~FOUND~]

HI there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

Found

[sisterinsurvival]

Hi stargazingmommy,

I am a member of the Newbie Support Team and just wanted to take the time to say welcome to After Silence.

I hope that you find comfort and support here as you become part of our community. I am glad that you have joined with us and look forward to getting to know you. If you need anything or have questions about the boards or how something works, please send me a personal message. I will gladly help in any way possible...also if you need someone to listen, let me know.

[dodo]

Hi and welcome to AS

best wishes

karen

[stargazingmommy]

Thank you for the welcome.

The last couple nights have been rough for me, and knowing there's someplace I can go where people understand helps.

[~FOUND~]

I hope you are finding your way around the boards ok.

Found

[stargazingmommy]

I've been doing a lot of reading Found. I'm at work and it's quiet, so to much time to thing and ponder, and cry.

[jedboom]

So sorry. I was raped by a male acquaintance when I was 12. Repressed the memory myself until 5 months ago and here I am-a mess pretty much. I am sorry that a male pedifile and rapist was able to receive a kidney transplant but that is a whole other political/moral mess. I am glad you are here so you can get the support you need and deserve. Take care and look forward to seeing you in chat.

Jen