New And A Little Scared

[leavingit27]

Hi I just wanted to say I am new here and introduce myself

I have to say that I am a little quesy about posting here

I have been burned badly by message boards before, simply for telling the truth of my story

so forgive me if I just lurk for a while.......

[Becky]

Welcome to After Silence

I'm sorry you've had bad experiences on other boards but I am glad you found us. Please feel free to message me if I can answer any questions or help you to feel more comfortable.

Take gentle care,

Becky

[nemesis]

welcome to AS im sure you will find this site a great support,

nem

[bloominlady]

hi and welcome to AS.

i hope you find the help you are looking for on this site.

it is sad any of us have to be here. it does help to know you

are not alone.

have a great day,

d.

[~FOUND~]

Hi there.

Welcome to AS.

I hope you find this site to be helpful.

Found

[sisterinsurvival]

Hi leavingit27,

I am a member of the Newbie Support Team and just wanted to take the time to say welcome to After Silence.

I hope that you find comfort and support here as you become part of our community. I am glad that you have joined with us and look forward to getting to know you. If you need anything or have questions about the boards or how something works, please send me a personal message. I will gladly help in any way possible...also if you need someone to listen, let me know.

Edited December 6, 2010 by sisterinsurvival

[~FOUND~]

I hope you are finding your way around the boards ok.

Found

[Annabel]

Hi

Would also just like to extend my welcome to you, sorry you have had a rough tome before but I'm sure you'll soon find out that AS is a great place of support.

Best wishes

Annabel

[leavingit27]

I just wanted to make sure that people here were not going to say really mean things to me. I am extremely sensitive soul and I take things very personally. I figured that being molested for 9 years made me that way. I tried finding help on the marriage bed (an evangelical christian site about sexuality), when I still considered myself a christian (even though I am not sure anymore), and people said the meanest things, like since I have issues having sex with my husband I should set him free, and that I should give my child up for adoption, simply because sex makes me cringe inside and I put that there, which was a HUGE mistake. I was just trying to find a way that I could give my husband what he needs without feeling so bad myself, but I guess that for now, that is just not possible........ My husband doesn't even care that we don't have sex anyways, I just wanted to make him happy, he just wants to see healed.

Right now, I need people to talk to, to understand, so bad, it's not even funny, but I just cannot risk getting hurt again. It's happened too many times.

Thank you for introducing yourself and reaching out to me. Hopefully in time, I will feel more like opening up.

[sholzy]

I just wanted to say welcome! I hope you find this sight as helpful as I have thus far... I have been here only a week, and for me, it feels just nice to not be so ALONE! HUGS and well wishes to you!!

[patriciag]

I just wanted to make sure that people here were not going to say really mean things to me. I am extremely sensitive soul and I take things very personally. I figured that being molested for 9 years made me that way. I tried finding help on the marriage bed (an evangelical christian site about sexuality), when I still considered myself a christian (even though I am not sure anymore), and people said the meanest things, like since I have issues having sex with my husband I should set him free, and that I should give my child up for adoption, simply because sex makes me cringe inside and I put that there, which was a HUGE mistake. I was just trying to find a way that I could give my husband what he needs without feeling so bad myself, but I guess that for now, that is just not possible........ My husband doesn't even care that we don't have sex anyways, I just wanted to make him happy, he just wants to see healed.

Right now, I need people to talk to, to understand, so bad, it's not even funny, but I just cannot risk getting hurt again. It's happened too many times.

Thank you for introducing yourself and reaching out to me. Hopefully in time, I will feel more like opening up.

I am so sorry that you got hurt by people. I am a Christian and it makes me angry to know that, that happened to you. I was also sexually abused as a child by my father. It sounds like you have a loving husband. There was a time in our marriage that I didn't want to be intimate, my husband and I talked about and agreed not to be. I could ask him for hugs or to hold me but felt safe that there was going to nothing else. We have passed that stage. Take your time to get to know us. I am new here also and have found some great help.

patricia

[whimsical1]

welcome to after-silence.

[Becky]

Right now, I need people to talk to, to understand, so bad, it's not even funny, but I just cannot risk getting hurt again. It's happened too many times.

I understand. You won't find any of the judgment you've previously encountered here! Many of us have been victims of that, in one way or another and as a result, acceptance and understanding is incredibly important to us.

I hope you know that you really only deserve understanding and support. I'm sorry you haven't gotten it!

Take your time, make yourself at home and when you do feel comfortable we are listening.

Take gentle care,

Becky

[WiltingHubby]

Evil rears it's head in unexpected places. Leavingit27 - Christianity doesn't make people better or less judgmental. I'm sorry you had to find out so harshly. Just know that more of us are trying to build you up instead of tear you down. I'm an atheist. So what. I don't care if there's a God or not. I care that good people are blaming themselves and going through pain alone. I hope you find a way to let people's faults be on them.

My love is limitless

So take it

And I'll have more to give.

[MommyT]

Hi there,

I just wanted to welcome you to AS, I too was very scared at first to post anything because of the shame and lack of trust I have for people. I now know and can assuere you no one on here is here to to hurt anyone in this group. We are all here to help each other heal and give the support that we need inside. I was abused as a child, when I finally said something I was betrayed by my boyfriend when he ran to my mother, she called me a liar to my face. So the lack of trust for people is well understood by this group. Please allow us to gain your trust even if it is slowly we will let you take your time to feel comfortable!!

[angelic]

Welcome to AS