I'm New... Broken

[RilovesKat]

I finally made the decision to leave my husband. I left my husband recently and I am very crushed. We had been together for 4 years, the verbal abuse came first then it became verbal and physical abuse.

We have a one month old daughter, I had told him that if he ever hit me again, I will leave him because I wanted things to change now that we have our daughter. Last Sunday, he got so mad at me that he punched my leg, that punched made me so angry I do not know what came over me, I left with my baby.

Now were are separated and I am not sure if I can handle it. What breaks my heart is that he hasn't called to see how his daughter is doing. I am just so confused right now, I don't know if I made the right decision. I need advice, please help me.

* All I want is to be loved and be respected, I hope that he will realize what he has done, I am hoping that he will change, and get his act together. I am the type of person that will love somebody forever., and I don't know if I would be able to move on that easily. Right now I AM BROKEN.*

[emt]

Welcome to AS. I am so sorry for what you are going through. But I totally would have done the same thing for the sake of my child. Stay strong and if you need anything PM me.

Much Comfort,

emt

[angelic]

Welcome to AS

[Becky]

Hi,

Welcome to After Silence

I'm sorry you are hurting, but for what it's worth- I think you did the right thing. You don't deserve to be treated badly- by anyone! You were brave to leave, but don't take him back just because he apologizes (if he does). Make him get help! You are much better off without him if he is unwilling to take serious steps to change.

You deserve to be loved and respected, so don't settle for anything less!!

Take gentle care,

Becky

[MidnightSunshine531]

welcome to AS

[gola]

I definitely think you made the right choice leaving him. You do not want to put your daughter or yourself in a dangerous position.. and even if he apologizes a million times do not take him back, because the truth is people never change.. and even if things get better for a while they will only become worse over time. It will be hard but you are so strong and already took the hardest step by leaving him. You deserve someone that will treat you like the amazing person you are. Do not settle for less.

.. and welcome to AS!! You can do it!!!

[dopey]

Hello and welcome to AS

[whimsical1]

Hello Kat, and welcome to AS.

[tmj1984]

Hey Welcome to AS. I know you may be doubting yourself, but you made the best choice for you and your daughter. You have to break that cycle!

[Maddie50]

Hello and a very warm welcome to AS

Love Maddie X

[beyondthemask]

Congratulations on taking the first step to the rest of your life.

You most certainly did the right thing even if it doesn't feel like it. I too, came out of a

physically and verbally abusive relationship. It hurts bad right now...but stay strong for

your daughter. Both of you deserve being treated with respect and dignity. Once you

get through this time of separation you will be seeing clearer. Things will get better.

Stay tuned into the forum...