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Clarissa

um...hi?

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hi...i just stumbled on your page trying to get over all this... wanting someone who will understand... It's so lonely and everyone thinks I should have gotten over it by now...all i want to do is scream! Anyways, just wanted to say thank you for all the posts...theyre helping a lot.

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Welcome to After Silence. I think that one of the worst things for people to say to a survivor is "just get over it...it was so long ago" Abuse in any form is life altering and changes a person. The key is being able to live with what happened and integrate it with your life. I hope you will find support here on your journey to healing. I'm here if you need anything. Take care

Lindsay

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Thank you so much... I know that one day, all this will pass, and I am encouraged by all the support here. I know things will stink too sometimes, but it's a good feeling to know that there are people who really do understand. THanks again. =)

[Edited on 1-5-2004 by Clarissa]

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Clarissa,

Hi and welcome to After Silence. I hope you find all the support and encouragement you seek here.

Should you have any questions, please do not hesitate to ask. We're here for you.

Take gentle care,

Lindy

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Welcome to "After Silence".

Please make yourself at home, we are a group of people who all share a common ground and wish to support one another.

The whole 'get over it' thing makes me so mad and sad. To me, it is one of the most invalidating remarks ever. Survivors have enough trouble thinking that they are alone in what they feel and this feeling is often aggravated by people saying things like "things aren't that bad", "think positive", "look at the bright side, you'll feel better tomorrow" and similar invalidating remarks that lead a person to feel very isolated.

We are here for you and I can assure you that no one here will ever tell you to "get over it"....we have been there and we know better!

Hugs,

Verena

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wow, i never thought of it that way...always just thought something was wrong with me....i mean, i should get over it, shouldn't i?

THank you for replying to me... to have SO MANY of you care and truly understand and be patient with me is a first!

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