Don't Know Where To Post This

[lilycharles]

I just want to post this somewhere. I'm a little confused by things around here, I can't get back to where I was last time and it seemed to have logged me out before I got to post. The subject was about how I cannot post or see the share your story board. This website for me is hard to find my way around, so I'll post this that I wrote, and then I'm going to leave. But PLEASE, no hard feelings meant in ANY WAY, the website seems like a GREAT place in many many ways, even if it's no satisfactory to me in one way....

well I signed up as a secondary survivor because I do love someone that was abused in childhood, but the main reason for me coming here was because I am not sure if I myself am a survivor or not...I have been having dreams and am worried, but since I'm not sure by any means, and don't remember anything, I signed up as a secondary survivor.

I'm kind of hurt at this seperation and I think it's going a little overboard, but perhaps it's necessary to protect survivors from predators in here, I don't know. However, any predator can just sign up as a survivor anyway and get in and if they are checked out and something comes up, they are not going to be let in as EITHER a survivor OR a secondary survivor. I think it would be better to let the supporters view the share the story board so they can do just that...support...and also learn about what it's really like for the people they love, that can be enormously helpful (I know first hand because someone shared their story with me on another site voluntarily, and it really helped me be an even better support for the person I love and be able to understand more)... when you are in a romantic relationship, or wether you are a friend, or brother or sister, or parent, or whatever of someone who's been through a sexual crime. And anyway, we're all anonymous here, and as incredibly difficult as it is, I wouldn't think the survivors would feel threatened to let people read their stories that are only looking to help and be a respectful support.

No offense, but I think I'm going to look for another board that suits me better instead of changing to survivor status (if it was possible that I could do that-I would not be ashamed to be identified as such, I just am not happy with the idea of the separation). I'd rather not get into a fight here right off the bat, so no need to explain to me the reasoning or argue with me, I am open to the idea that maybe the separation is very necessary and I just don't understand the issue, I could be completely wrong, however, I think there might be other boards that don't have that, so I'm going to try them.

Before I leave, I just want to lend my support to all the survivors on here, and say 'keep the faith'. (not a religiously motivated statement, just a general motto of mine).

And no hard feelings to what seems like a wonderful website and excellent place to be a refuge and a haven of support and safety.

[lacrymosa]

Thanks for the well wishes, lilyCharles. I wish you the best in finding what you're looking for.

[John]

Hey lilyCharles,

If you decide to change your mind please feel free to PM a member of the Newbie Support Team, and we will be able to assist you in using the message board, and also move your account to a Survivors account if you feel your memories are valid, - Remember we're here to help

Otherwise, our best wishes to you

John