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Like the title says, howdy.

I'm writing this from a place of uncertainty. SA & emotional abuse from a previous partner was known but rarely discussed, meant for to be healed by time. A performance piece I'm working on deals with SA quite bluntly & when asked to make sure that other people involved get connected to systems of support, I realized I should also. Then, coincidentally, a trigger the day later left me near debilitated for four days.

I'm present now, here, slightly anxious but thankful to have taken at least the step of signing up.

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Welcome to AS, @despentes! Howdy to you! I'm so glad you found your way here and decided to join, but I'm very sorry for what you've experienced. It was undeserved, and none of it was your fault. You absolutely deserve to get support as well, so it's wonderful you're taking this step. It's interesting you're working on a performance piece! Very cool. I wish you the best with that. I wonder if it helps you to heal in a way, by working on this piece...you work through some of the emotions dealing with your SA since it focuses heavily on SA as well. 

Take your time exploring the site and feel free to post whenever you're up to it. We're all here for you. You're not alone. ❤️ 


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Hi despentes and welcome.

I am very sorry for the abuse you've endured and the struggles you have faced because of your ex. It is so wrong for someone you trust to hurt you so. You have found a very supportive community tho with many understanding members. 

I think sometimes it is easier for us to focus on other and try to help than to do ourselves, so good job for realizing you deserve support and self-care, too. I know it's not an easy step and reaching out isn't always easy, but trust that you will find a comfortable footing here at AfterSilence. We are here for you.

Wishing you well as you continue down this path of healing.



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Dear despentes


I am sorry for all that you have been through.   You have been so brave in reaching out to us, please know that this is never easy!   We are all here for you and we want to support you.  You're not alone in your healing journey and are always welcome to lean on us for extra support.  You can post as much or as little as you like.  We are here to support you in the way you need.  I have found this community to be very helpful.  Everyone is so understanding and non-judgmental and I am hoping you feel the same way once you've gotten to know us a little.   


All my best,




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Welcome @despentes to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me.  Also, kudos to you for taking care of yourself!  Self-care is so important.  

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