Hello :) New here

[Mahadev]

Hey everyone, I'm Mahadev(not a real name, don't freak :p). Male, not a survivor, just a helper, I guess. My girlfriend revealed to me that she had been a victim of sexual abuse as a child, and I'm just figuring out how to best help her. I'm apparently the first person she's trusted enough to tell too, so yeah pretty honouring, but places a significant responsibility on me as well, since she's very sensitive (understandably) about that subject, and what I say about it has a great effect, so I don't want to risk accidentally hurting her or triggering something. 

Yeah, that's about it, I'm just here to learn, I guess, and seek advice from you all about how best to help her in specific ways.
Thanks :D (And yeah, first post, so I'm probably uneducated about the formatting, if it exists)

[Finchy]

Welcome to AS! I'm glad you made your way here.  I'm sorry about what happened to your GF. You're very kind and supportive to be there for her and to come here for some advice on how to best help her. You'll find a lot of really kind people here that will be happy to help. Thank you for being you.

Best wishes!

-Finch

[snmls]

Hi @Mahadev 

Welcome to AS. That is really supportive that you are making an effort to learn more about helping and caring for a survivor. You sound like a wonderful partner. You are welcome to browse the forums and post whenever you need advice. Wishing you and your partner the best. 

[missfrier]

Hello mahadev

 

Welcome to  AS.   I am sorry to hear that you've had to find us, but  glad you did.  I am sad to hear that someone you care about has experienced trauma.  It is always wonderful to see someone willing and wanting to help their family member or friend through this   difficult time.   Just being there for them and letting  them talk without fear of judgement is the absolute best gift you can give them.  Please know and understand that we are also here to support you.  I hope that being here will help you to be able to support your loved one as best as you possibly can.  Please lean on us for support if you need.  

 

Wishing you all the best!!!

missfrier

 

 

[Mahadev]

Thanks a lot @missfrier @snmls @mini.finch. We are meeting in unfortunate circumstances, but thanks for the kind words. This is an amazing community, and I'm just a helper, I can just imagine how comforting this might prove to a survivor.

[Doll6]

Welcome @Mahadev to our community! Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you supporting her. I hope you find support for yourself as a carer as well as ideas for how to support your girlfriend 

[8888]

Welcome @Mahadev to After Silence.  Thank you for supporting your girlfriend.  It's good to have you here.

[Mahadev]

Thanks for the kind words @8888 @doll6