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Hi... don't really know what to say... I'm in very early days with finally admitted to me for my whole childhood over two decades ago... I guess I don't really know what else to say sorry 

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Hi abcd,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am sorry for what you experienced as a child and the struggles you face. Be assured, you have no reason to be sorry. It is a huge step to just admit something happened. I know...I was the same about 6 years ago. It's not an easy thing to admit, so give yourself a lot of credit. It is very brave to do so. 

I know it may feel a bit awkward and you don't know what to really say yet. That is ok. It is very ok to take your time and look around, perhaps see that others that you can relate to. Jump in and interact, if you feel comfortable, or just continue looking around until your ready. There is no pressure. Our community is understanding and kind and we respect everyone's own progress here. 

I am glad you decided to reach out. I wish you many steps forward and you navigate this path we call healing.



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Hi @abcd

Welcome to AS. I'm sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but I'm glad you've found the site and decided to join. This is a kind and caring community filled with wonderful people. We are all here to support each other and help each other help in a judgment free space. Talking with other survivors can help you to feel less alone and can validate some of the emotions you are feeling. It is normal to be confused and be at a loss for words when you are just starting the healing process. We are here to guide you through the ups and downs of healing. You are welcome to take some time looking around the site. Whenever you feel ready you can post and share on the forums, but just reading other posts is okay too. I wish you all the best. Please don't be afraid to reach if you need help using the site. 

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Welcome to AS, @abcd:aswelcomesu: It's ok to not be sure what to say. What matters most is that you're here, and that you're going to start your healing journey. I'm sorry for what you went through. It can be so hard to realize and admit to yourself what happened was trauma. It's not an easy realization. You're very strong. You'll meet a lot of really supportive people here! Best wishes!


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18 hours ago, abcd said:

Hi... don't really know what to say... I'm in very early days with finally admitted to me for my whole childhood over two decades ago... I guess I don't really know what else to say sorry 

Hello. Welcome, so happy you joined! I am Wanna :flowers:

First off, please don't apologize. I think you captured the picture very well.

The first days are an extremely sensitive time, as it usually comes with high risk of doubt and second guessing oneself. That's why I am relieved you've decided to come here early on, so we can support you through this. 

Admitting your trauma takes a lot of effort, and reaching out a lot of courage. You are being very strong. I am sincerely sorry about your past, please know that we believe you.  :youcanheal:

This is a great and safe place to start out your healing journey. Our members form a warm support system, and you can share whatever you'd like here. Aside from trauma and coping, you can talk about your daily life, thoughts and interests too. This is a very wide forum. 

Wishing you the very best!

- Wanna ☀️

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Hi Abcd, welcome to AS.  This is a safe place

  You'll find lots of supply and friends.  Take your time checking things out.

Your not alone.

Take care Patti 🐈



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Hi, @abcd - 

Welcome to After Silence! I know it's hard to find the words to say when you first join and it can be a bit intimidating. I hope that you've seen the love and support that comes from our members here and you know that this is a safe place for you to find healing! 

If you need anything, I'm a quick message away any time :)

Wishing you all the best,

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Hello abcd


Welcome to  AS.   I am sorry to hear that you've had to find us, but  glad you did.  I am sad to hear that someone you care about has experienced trauma.  It is always wonderful to see someone willing and wanting to help their family member or friend through this   difficult time.   Just being there for them and letting  them talk without fear of judgement is the absolute best gift you can give them.  Please know and understand that we are also here to support you.  I hope that being here will help you to be able to support your loved one as best as you possibly can.  Please lean on us for support if you need.  


Wishing you all the best!!!




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Welcome @abcd to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

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