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[Heretoheal]

Hi everyone,

I have recently began to take on the life-long journey of recovery from incest abuse.  I want to tell my story to everyone, but obviously I don't because it's not always the right time or person.  I joined a couple of nights ago and I spent hours reading through different blog posts.  I really was hoping to find someone with my same story (relation to abuser and family) and I don't know why that is important to me.  I want to share so someone else like me might read it and not feel alone.  I want to share to end the silence and generational secrecy my family values.  Fuck that shit.  I kept it quiet for 20 years and I am very much in the mindset of SPEAKING UP.  I am looking forward to sharing my story here in the safe place. 

I have found a wonderful therapist after 3 failed therapist relationships and I hope that some day this will not effect me and my relationships (or lack there of).

Thank you for reading and thank you for being here.

[MeBeMary]

Hi Heartoheal,

Welcome to AfterSilence (I saw your PM and will reply after I do here). I am sorry for the trauma you have endured and the struggles you face. Speaking out can truly be a difficult thing to do, but can also be empowering. When you are ready to do so, this community will validate and support you. You are not alone.

I also found myself in this community decades after the fact, and for me, it truly was a life-saver. Seeing others who understand, tho sadly so, is a relief in many ways. What we have kept inside, tho unique to ourselves, is not unique in how we relate and struggle. We all share a bond that is hard to explain, but is very needed. I'm glad you have found us and decided to reach out.

I wish you well as you continue down this path of healing.

Mary

 

[snmls]

Hi @Heretoheal

Welcome to AS. I'm sorry for the trauma you have experienced, but I'm glad that you found AS and decided to join. This is a kind and caring community made up of so many supportive people. We are all here to help each other heal. Sharing your story can be hard, but it can also be empowering. Sometimes sharing that story with other survivors can help you to feel validated and less alone. You are welcome to post and share on the site whenever you feel comfortable. If you have any questions about using the site, just reach out! Wishing you the best. 

[Finchy]

Welcome to AS!  I'm glad you found your way here, though I am very sorry for what you have endured. You are not alone...you are a survivor, no matter your story. Feel free to share at your own pace. It's wonderful you're ready to start on this long path to healing and to speak out! Your words, your story, and your strength will help a lot of other survivors. 

Best wishes!

-Finch

[8888]

Welcome @Heretoheal to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me. 

[missfrier]

Dear heartoheal

 

I am sorry for all that you have been through.   You have been so brave in reaching out to us, please know that this is never easy!   We are all here for you and we want to support you.  You're not alone in your healing journey and are always welcome to lean on us for extra support.  You can post as much or as little as you like.  We are here to support you in the way you need.  I have found this community to be very helpful.  Everyone is so understanding and non-judgmental and I am hoping you feel the same way once you've gotten to know us a little.   

 

All my best,

missfrier

 

 

[WannaMoveOn]

Hello @Heretoheal and welcome to After Silence, I am Wanna

Nice choice of name, I like it! As you can see, mine is also inspired of my survivor goal.  Yes, break the silence! Nobody has the right to tell you to keep it secret. Being valuable and sharing is brave, you did right by coming here. 

I am sincerely sorry for your trauma and pain. AS invites all kinds of survivors, and I am certain you'll find survivors with similar a background story or who can relate in other ways. Our members form a warm support system. 

I am happy you finally found a therapist that fits your needs, it is very important. I believe a community and professional guidance complete another in a support system. Hope to see you around! 

Once again, welcome   

- Wanna ☀️

[Poppy_]

Hi, @Heretoheal - 

Welcome to After Silence! I'm sorry if you did not find a blog post that quite matched what you were looking for. I can assure you, there are people here that have experienced the same thing you are going through. Blogs are public so a lot of people don't post too many details there. There is a Share Your Story forum that will unlock once you've reached 10 posts and you might find something there! 

I'm sorry for what you experienced and what brought you here. I hope that we can help you find healing  If you need anything, I'm here! 

All the best,
Poppy