Hi

[simply]

I've spent a short while trying to decide whether to type anything on here. Because honestly I spoke to one person about what happened to me and I'll just say they were a responsible adult and they told me 'it happens to everyone at your age, it's no big deal' but maybe it's my fault they said that. 

I mean I didn't tell the whole story, I didn't want my parents to find out. Is it my fault? What should I have done?

ANyway Hi! Nice to meet you all

[WannaMoveOn]

15 minutes ago, simply said:

I've spent a short while trying to decide whether to type anything on here. Because honestly I spoke to one person about what happened to me and I'll just say they were a responsible adult and they told me 'it happens to everyone at your age, it's no big deal' but maybe it's my fault they said that. 

I mean I didn't tell the whole story, I didn't want my parents to find out. Is it my fault? What should I have done?

ANyway Hi! Nice to meet you all

Hello simply, I am Wanna

What happened to you is not your fault. I can say that right away without details. It is never your fault.

If you are unsure about whether you gave consent or not, that is not right. You should always be sure you was safe and respected. If somebody has done something to you, resulting to the point of you considering it as SA/R/harassment, that is a big deal. Nobody should have to go through with this. It doesn't matter how "normal" this would be, that doesn't make it any less serious. 

 I am sincerely sorry for your reasons to be here, but hopefully After Silence can offer the support you need. You can talk about anything here, and you decide what to share and not. We will believe you. You own your story. This is a place to vent, exchange support, advice and much more  

Feel free to have a look around and once you feel ready, this platform is here for you! Also, if you would have any questions, need some venting/chatting or anything at all, us staff always have doors open. You can DM me or any staff of choice. 

Hope to see you around. My warmest welcomes  

- Wanna ☀️

Edited November 28, 2020 by WannaMoveOn

[missfrier]

Dear simply 

 

I am sorry for all that you have been through.   You have been so brave in reaching out to us, please know that this is never easy!   We are all here for you and we want to support you.  You're not alone in your healing journey and are always welcome to lean on us for extra support.  You can post as much or as little as you like.  We are here to support you in the way you need.  I have found this community to be very helpful.  Everyone is so understanding and non-judgmental and I am hoping you feel the same way once you've gotten to know us a little.   

 

All my best,

missfrier

 

 

[MeBeMary]

7 hours ago, simply said:

I've spent a short while trying to decide whether to type anything on here. Because honestly I spoke to one person about what happened to me and I'll just say they were a responsible adult and they told me 'it happens to everyone at your age, it's no big deal' but maybe it's my fault they said that. 

I mean I didn't tell the whole story, I didn't want my parents to find out. Is it my fault? What should I have done?

ANyway Hi! Nice to meet you all

Hi simply,

Welcome to AfterSilence. I am very sorry for what happened to you and it is a big deal. Whoever told you it is not either does not understand or they rather not think about there being people like this out there, so denial kicks in. Being hurt is not something anyone should go thru. It's not deserved and it's not right. How you are questioning yourself sadly is common among survivors. We second guess our own actions...but should be questioning their actions. There is never an excuse or reason anyone should hurt you. Never.

I am glad you have found our community. Do know that there are so many here that understand what you went thru and will support you. Your story is validated and how you feel is so normal for something that was un-normal.

Please look around the site. Interact where you feel comfortable, without pressure. You are not alone.

I wish you well as you begin this path we call healing. You are not alone.

Mary

[little_boy_lost]

Welcome to AS. I hope you can find support here. Everyone is very nice and I have found AS very helpful. We are all here for each other. 

[8888]

Welcome @simply to After Silence.  I’m sorry for what brought you here but I’m happy you are here reaching out for support.  Good job taking this step in your healing process.  You are not alone and what happened to you wasn’t your fault.  Take your time exploring and post when you are ready.  If you have any questions feel free to message me.